I don't understand why most people who drink tend to

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#1

I don't understand why most people who drink tend to become violent and don't care about hurting someone else

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#2

These next 3 paragraphs come from a couple places in the big book of AA which is the textbook for recovery.

An illness of this sort—and we have come to believe it an illness—involves those about us in a way no other human sickness can. If a person has cancer all are sorry for him and no one is angry or hurt. But not so with the alcoholic illness, for with it there goes annihilation of all the things worth while in life. It engulfs all whose lives touch the sufferer’s. It brings misunderstanding, fierce resentment, financial insecurity, disgusted friends and employers, warped lives of blameless children, sad wives and parents—anyone can increase the list.

But what about the real alcoholic? He may start off as a moderate drinker; he may or may not become a continuous hard drinker; but at some stage of his drinking career he begins to lose all control of his liquor consumption, once he starts to drink.

Here is the fellow who has been puzzling you, especially in his lack of control. He does absurd, incredible, tragic things while drinking. He is a real Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. He is seldom mildly intoxicated. He is always more or less insanely drunk. His disposition while drinking resembles his normal nature but little. He may be one of the finest fellows in the world. Yet let him drink for a day, and he frequently becomes disgustingly, and even dangerously anti-social. He has a positive genius for getting tight at exactly the wrong moment, particularly when some important decision must be made or engagement kept. He is often perfectly sensible and well balanced concerning everything except liquor, but in that respect he is incredibly dishonest and selfish. He often possesses special abilities, skills, and aptitudes, and has a promising career ahead of him. He uses his gifts to build up a bright outlook for his family and himself, and then pulls the structure down on his head by a senseless series of sprees. He is the fellow who goes to bed so intoxicated he ought to sleep the clock around.

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#3

For now it’s enough to understand that most people do become angry and fight anything and everything. You don’t need to fully understand why to know that it’s the reality that you’ve recognized. “More will be revealed”

#4

Consequences. Consequences keep people in check. If there are no consequences, there is chaos. When you drink, I think it inhibits your sense of consequence as well as an over exaggeration of emotion. To a sober person, say they're having a bad day and hold anger and resentment and for a split second they may wish to lash out at someone, but consequences hold them back. The consequence could be that they would damage their reputation, do something they regret, break the law etc. But to a drunk, with heightened emotional volatility and no sense of consequence to hold them back, it's easy to see why drunks act the way they do: violent, abrasive, inconsiderate, hateful. They simply have no sense of consequence; they simply don't give two cĐłaps whatsoever about what they do, say, or who they hurt.