Before i got sober 43 days ago i had a job, money, and friends. I can't afford basic things i need. Living in a sober house and haven't found work yet and rent is just piled up on me. My insurance has expired, and can't afford the mental health care and meds i need. Still sober, but feel like im back sliding.
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Oh sweetie please don’t go backwards things will get better. Go to Dhs office to get some medical assistance and food card. I promise this will be your best life.
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Welcome to the platform. I hope you find employment soon.
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Me too cause idk anything about Texas and have little to no support here
While in sobriety i got divorced, went bankrupt and had other not pleasant things happen. I went through some adversity, and this was with a few 24 hours under my belt. It was overwhelming.
The gift was while I remained sober I was able to tackle the problems one by one. They didn't go away or get solved overnight, I didn't get up to solve them and stay sober.
Did they all get resolved tje way I wanted? Nope, they did get resolved and the burden of the problem did go away. Is my life perfect? Also no. I want to be Brad Pitt with fine blond hair, great looks, and a ton of cash. I'm 52, bald and, divorced * single, with my right leg amputated above the knee. Yet it's still a life I'm grateful for.
The gift of working the Program is i am able to live and cope with life as it comes. I can ask for help, such as bodies to help move, an ear to vent to, and a place to find an answer in The Book.
Don't give up till the miracle happens. It will happen and appears differently for everyone.
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Franklin, you definitely not alone. Many of us are or have been in similar situations. Stay sober and work hard on your program. Somehow, some way we get through the financial hurdles if we stay sober. WE STAY SOBER NO MATTER WHAT. That’s the golden rule. Everything else will fall into place.
Are you working the 12 steps with a sponsor?
I’m here if you want to talk
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It's just part of the process shedding the old self and becoming the better version of yourself. However the journey sucks trust god
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I am working a program 
at that. I've never wanted to be sober until 44 days ago. I am staying sober no matter what. My goddess watches over me, but I feel like she is kinda not listening atm. I'm sure it's just a feeling. This to shall pass.
Hello Franklin, glad for you sobriety. I hope you find the job for you soon.
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Stay sober Franklin - have you heard people say “it gets worse before it gets better?” - it does get better - I got sober and my 56 yr old husband abandoned me for a 19 year old, I lost my job, my house, my car, my so-called friends and certainly my self respect - 2 1/2 years later I am living rent free with my mom, reestablished family relationships, out of debt for the first time in my life, happily single and starting my own business at 65! Your life will completely flip before you know it !
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Lots of things fall and land on their feet! It's not the falling that hurts, it's the way you land! Think of cats, squirrels, birds, opossums. You got this! Call your sponsor, pray, read the approved literature, go to meetings, etc.
Hang in there my friend you got this
Failing forward has been the key in my sobriety. That was done by putting one foot in front of the other and doing one good thing for me and my sobriety each day. Such as calling and talking to two women (in your case 2 men) in the program each day. Reading 4 pages of the big book including the forwards. Getting to a meeting of Alcoholics Anonymous. Surrender my will to my higher power with the third step prayer (page 63 of the Big Book). And watch practice HALT. ( check out if I am hungry, angry, lonely or tired. )
You have already begun living in the solution. The perfect job and lifestyle is already in existence for your best interests. Don’t leave before the miracle happens. Yours in service, Geri B. Canada