I feel like nobody cares enough about me to intervene on me. I’ve been struggling with various kinds of substance abuse and an eating disorder since I was 15 and even though my family knows I go through sht and have been suicidal for years they’ve never cared or noticed enough to get me help. They constantly write off my meltdowns as hormonal bull sht and never notice that I get wasted pretty much every night and never bring my issues up beyond occasionally gossiping about it in a passive way. I know it’s ultimately up to me to want to get help but I just wish someone in my life gave enough of a sht about me to notice how miserable I am and how I can’t go a day without getting fcked up. I feel like I am just a joke and a second thought to everyone and it f*cking sucks because I feel like nobody would notice or care if I just disappeared. I just want someone to genuinely care.
I don’t want this to come off as harsh or unfeeling, but are you sure, or is that your perception? You said it yourself, ultimately it is up to you. Have you gone to a rehab facility that also helps with dual diagnosis? Have you put forth the effort to make the calls for therapy? Family is odd in the way that we feel like no one cares or is willing to help, but really how many times were their hands out and we didn’t take them? I don’t know your story, but in my experience, being part of a huge family full of addicts and mental health issues, I will say help is there if asked for. If your fam is like mine, we all have our own sht to deal with, most people won’t go out of their way except to passively say “ you ok?” And it’s not that they don’t care. I hope you find the peace you deserve. Truly I hope you can find peace.
Maybe YOU should be the one to give a sht about yourself to make a change. Maybe YOU should intervene. Maybe they don't know how to handle it. Sounds like a lot of stuff going on, so maybe they just don't know what to do.
Ultimately it's your life. You can't sit around waiting for someone else to make a move just so you can feel wanted. You have to make the moves to get better yourself. After that it gets better.
I'm with those 2 replies. Maybe Call a facility, hospital, maybe you'll get 72 hour hold and be evaluated and then admitted.
The new mental health, suicide crises line is 988.
Echoing what others have said, only you can make the decision to help you. Trust me, I get it. We all want to be supported in a meaningful way. Some people are just not capable of providing that support or are able to do it in a way that is meaningful to you.
One of my biggest challenges has been getting the support and validation from the people society says are supposed to give it, like family. It's never happened. It's never going to happen. So I choose to surround myself with people who do get it. They are the family I choose. They keep me sober.
But first things first, decide for yourself to get help. You have to take that first step. And you can do it. You don't want to suffer anymore and you have the power to stop it.
Couldn’t have written it any better. It’s not up to the families. This has to be done or at least started on your own. I have family members who won’t speak to me since my sobriety so I have decided to write them off. Maybe the family is also in their own addiction and by not recognizing her addiction is because they don’t want to look at their own addictions. I had someone that I was helping with sobriety and she is back out and blaming everyone else for being back in. People need to help themselves. Death could come to you before they help. Harsh reality
I felt like this before and I made the conscious decision to take action, what happened was nobody even knew I was using or that I was feeling miserable because I was actually hiding it in front of them while crying and using behind them. It is probably not the fault of others. Try talking to your family and tell them you’re struggling with these mental issues and you need help finding somewhere to go for treatment. You’ll be surprised at the outcome if you just surrender and give it to a god of YOUR understanding and let them guide your life. Best of luck and god speed.
I know the feeling
Would be nice if someone just reached out once.
I always used to think in the program “Why doesn’t anyone reach out and check up on me, isn’t that what this is about?” But I think I came to realize that was just my selfish thoughts trying to put myself at the center of the universe and trick myself into thinking everything revolves around me. So people should reach out to me, but in reality- it’s vice versa. I have to be the one to reach out to others, but that’s okay! Every one of us has our own lives going on and our own events and struggles going on internally and externally. I can’t just sit back at wait for someone to reach out. I have to take the action myself if I want to get better! It’s on me, just like you said. Doesn’t mean at all that the people in my life don’t care about me or love me.
I find often those who we think don't care, do. Often times they want to help but are frozen in indecision and don't know what to do. The thing I hear most often at funerals of those who chose to end this existence is, " I wish I had known" and "I knew they were struggling but didn't know what to do." We tell people to stay put of other people's life so much that often the ones we need to interfere don't know how to. Find someone you trust, and tell them you are struggling to stay afloat. If you don't trust anyone then find a doctor to talk to. You do not have to do any of this alone.