I feel so bored/boring now that I stopped drinking. These

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I feel so bored/boring now that I stopped drinking. These times I would just go to a local bar and get drunk with whoever is there. That’s not an option anymore I realize that all my friends were just drinking friends, now I don’t have many people to hangout with

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#2

It’s a good time to self explore and find new things you like. I surprisingly have a green thumb and like to garden, little did I know. You never know what you’ll find!

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#3

Boredom is a huge trigger for me too. But really the truth is, I'm super boring when I'm drinking because all I do is sit on my behind and drink. Can't wait to have more time to pursue creative things and the motivation to do it. My motivation hits the ground when I drink.

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#4

I think we’re all in the same boat….. I always thought well at least when I would drink I had fun and socialized. We just have to figure out other ways to fill out time because we know what drinking brings…. It’s not fun just misery in the end

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#5

Thank You Kelley, I have a list in my mind of things I would like to try doing, now I just need the motivation to get started

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Haha, Jessica Im sure you’re not super boring as you say. But yes we need that motivation to get up and get out and do healthy things

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#7

So true Luis, that is exactly what I am struggling with. I know what I need to do, but the motivation is lacking

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Think of all the time and extra cash you should have not walking to the tavern and drinking. I added up one day the hours and money I spent in a week… I was floored! I could afford a new truck payment and I can now be present in my kids life and activities. Motivation is just like starting the sober journey… the hardest part is starting. Once you get going it gets easier to keep going.

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#9

Thanks Tim, I do find I am saving some cash. Maybe I’ll do that and see how much I’m saving

#10

I will be following this, because I am in the same boat Derrian. 135 days sober today and just feel bored and discouraged at times because I too realize that all my "friends" are turning out to be just "drinking buddies".

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#11

Went hiking with a buddy I met in Court; we hiked Rim to Rim in the Grand Canyon. And we both remarked about how we saved money that would have otherwise been spent on drinking and instead used it to get some bougie camping/hiking gear. So, like others have said, explore, find a new hobby that’s healthy, and make new friends. Surprisingly, more random folks are receptive to me not drinking than I would have thought.

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#12

I found out I’m a huge yoga fan while at rehab! Self care, buddy!

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& everyone else that is following... I've found online (life ring) meetings that are actually held on zoom pacific time zones you get the codes and password from the online site lifering.org/meetings anyways I've been to a few & there pretty interesting & a great way to meet new sober friends...

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#15

I wish I had all the money I’ve spent in a bar or liquor store..and/or dope in my lifetime.. hundreds and hundreds of dollars.. I just try to stay busy these days.. so when bedtime comes I’m tired and go to bed..
I have animals that need me too.. so I don’t think about drinking or get’n high but after 26 years of not drinking I still think about it when I’m stressed.. just take one day at a time

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#16

Yeah it’s a lonely place right Jason. It’s not easy to make new non drinking friends either. But Im going to keep trying

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#17

Thanks David, I’m gonna keeping trying to figure out what things I like doing, seems like drinking was my only hobby before haha

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Yeah Ive been trying to get into health and fitness more, that has at least been one of my interests outside drinking. I just need some friends to go on this journey with

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#19

I think I can be guilty of a little isolation myself. But I can’t be around the same people I was before at least not yet anyway

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#20

Thanks Jan

#21

Hi just take it one day at a time​:slightly_smiling_face::slightly_smiling_face:

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