I feel trapped

I feel very trapped by the harmful patterns in nearly all of my relationships that has been going on since childhood. It escalated in the last 8 years. In 2023 - 2024 it reached its peak. It still hasnt fully subsided. I am struggling because I have a fear it will continue on in the future in all of my relationships. These arent just interpersonal or familial, I am talking also career, business, realtors, etc and otherwise.

Its too much to explain but I am being gaslighted by the world often. I am also being accused and blamed for things not of my doing. I am being mistreated with violence and disdain from people I have done absolutely nothing wrong to or have not instigated in anyway.

It is disturbing. It is so difficult because no change in my life prevents it from recurring. Although I keep making changes to find a permanent solution.

I continuw seeking counsel from my sponsor, therapists, AA, and from spiritual advisors. I ask my higher power for guidance.

I cant live in a world I am afraid of. It makes me not want to try to better my situation anymore, but I have to try because its my only hope out of a life I despise.

I tried this before, completely alcohol-free too, and it still ended in ruin.

I feel very lost and troubled. I keep praying. I keep hoping. Somedays, it just isn't enough. I need actual results. Not just wishes for peace, stability, safety, and success - but actual substantial, sustaining, and external proof of this in MY life.

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Then maybe those aren't your people if you aren't embraced unconditionally. Take a step back and take notice of the perspective. I'm sorry you feel lost so in order to regain control of your efforts, what do you think you can do differently to foster a different effective outcome?

Sam, I hope you don't mind me calling you Sam. I read all you had to say, and it's like you took the words right out of my mouth.
I've been clean for 23 years and 4 years ago I relapsed and I'm still having trouble getting back on the right track I got six days sober again I've been fighting back and forth this past couple of years and it's not been easy it's been a total roller coaster with every aspect of my being in my existing. Every don't know what I can say but that weeknd your works to me and I just Say that I wish you the best in the States t myself take care