I feel very isolated and alone. This makes me want to check out from reality. Anyone else have this issue?
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I did have isolation issues at the beginning. And even though my nonsober friends reached out, I chose to stay more in contact with friends/family that enjoy doing stuff without alcohol.
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I do. I miss my drinking buddies a lot, but I don't miss the person I become when I get out of control. It was hard prioritizing but for me to actually thrive again I had to change.
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Its just really lonely. Superficial or not, the relationships I made at the bar were my circle. Take away the bar culture and I really have no friends.
Going to the bar is not I want to do anymore but I want a connection, whether real or a pacifier.
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I have before, but it never helped. I'm sorry you're feeling alone, we're all in this together. Staying present can help is to reach out and meet people to enjoy this life with, poison free.
I can feel alone in a room full of people. Talk to people you haven’t heard from in a while or just go sit outside of a meeting. I did that for a while, just sat and listened. Eventually I felt more comfortable and those people became my friends.
This is so real, it’s hard for sure. I can relate and am still finding out how to alleviate it. Despite all the advice I’m given it all seems so unrealistic
A lot of us addicts struggle with isolation. You are not alone in that feeling. I heard something really good in a meeting once-connection is the opposite of addiction. Get connected with other alcoholics. It will help you slowly but surely get out of that feeling.
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Also, if you need someone to talk to-you can reach out to me. It helps us to get out of our heads and talk to one another.
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Dudes stay in your lane..
I believe that women need support from other women not the overwhelming majority of men who respond
Been in AA long enough to recognize your feral instinct to contact any woman thinking your going to into her head and ultimately f... her up.
Say a prayer if you believe in a God but leave the women alone..
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I welcome the escape from reality!!! What goes on in my head is way cooler!
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Seems like you’re passing judgement . If you’re in the program…dude. Speaking of staying in one’s lane. Not everybody here is in the program. You know this as I do. Love and tolerance my friend. Love and tolerance.
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Lauren
Many of the 12 step programs can bring a sense of community that can help with isolation. There are likely some women’s only groups that can get you around some women with similar circumstances as yours. I hope that you can stay strong in the meantime.
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YES! I’ve been going thru the same thing
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Of course Lauren most of us are suffering from almost all of the issues. That’s why the or a fellowship is so necessary. This really can’t be done alone. We wouldn’t be here if it were that simple. We are deep complex people who feel very miss-understood. Joining a recovery group isn’t just about stopping out substance of choice, it’s about brother and sisterhood. Support, being there for each other.
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Maybe hit a meeting and ask openly if anyone is willing to talk after. Go get coffee or grab a burger.
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Go to as many meetings as you can and talk to people, make friends, invite them for coffee after the meeting.
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I used to feel that way all the time. But things will get better within time.
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Isolation happens and it happened to me too. It happens for so many reasons. When I try to protect my sobriety, it takes me away from the activities and people that I loved. Finding new sober people or old friends who will do sober activities with you is key.
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I’m a huge isolator! I love my solitude. Don’t trip, go to lots of meetings and tell on yourself. You’ll feel better quickly⚡️
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