Because since I started working with her a year ago, we haven’t even finished step one. God willing, I’ll have 2 years in about a week. I don’t want to go into this milestone without a new sponsor. But the only women I know from meetings are people that my ex sponsor introduced me to. I feel awkward asking one of them for help. And I feel judged because my ex sponsor is so revered in that group of women for surviving all her issues and staying sober.
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My advice would be to pick one of the women you don't know but heard share and who has a fair amount of time under their belt, show up early and leave late until you can strike up a conversation with said gal. If you are uncomfortable asking on the spot, ask if y'all could exchange contact info and follow up with a call or text.
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Gotta do what's best for you my friend. Your sober journey is yours, not someone else's to judge. Congratulations on your sobriety!
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First, you can’t fire a Sponsor. A Sponsor does not work for you, nor do you work for them.
That being said, it is important to find someone you can trust and someone who will be open and honest, and give you the tools you need in order to be successful.
For the first eight months of my sobriety, I worked with one sponsor. It was never a good fit. However, I stayed longer than I should out of guilt. I felt like I owed it to him to remain his Sponsee. That only led to resentment. And resentment is what leads to a relapse.
I hope you find the right sponsor. There is nothing in the literature that says that you have to have just one sponsor, or stay with one sponsor for Longer than you should.
You got this, love is love. 
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It is your sobriety and I’m glad that you switched over. Change is always good at elevates our mind open our eyes to new dimensions of freedom and love and of course learning
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Trust your gut.
Not all sponsors are created equal. Mine ain’t that great I but do get what I need from him . Friendship for now. AA has many failings but tremendous help. One of thier failures is that they rely to much on pure experience and not professional help. …… a good therapist can steer you in the right direction. Ultimately, and this sucks:weary:,it’s up to you!
Actually, THEY recommend you avail yourself of good doctors, therapists and clergy.
Some people in some meetings may have the OPINION that AA is all you need....but all the AA literature recommendations are that you get ALL the best help that you need.
Read the Big Book (the black parts) and the other AA literature and you won't need the opions of folks who haven't taken the time to bother.
I totally agree with Joshua. Do what is best for you.
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Great insights
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