I have a question so I've been charging for about 18 months and I chair a little noon meeting that there's not a lot of people most are in drug court and specialty courts they're that are just there for their paper getting signed and there's only like five at a time and nobody usually shares and so I took out that works how and why literature and started reading it try to let people share nobody wanted to share so another member was reading it a paragraph and then nobody wanted to share nobody wanted to read they just wanted to sit there or play on their phones and then my sponsor and her husband come in and then all of a sudden the meeting got turned upside down because I wasn't just letting the meeting sit there and be quiet I was reading literature I was giving people opportunities to share and read nobody wanted to I know these people they said that they're the meeting was going fine but my sponsor's husband didn't like what was going on and he like pretty much freaked out and walked out was I in the wrong
Okay it kind of made me want to stop chairing but I know that my service work is important to not just me and my recovery but to other people
That sounds stressful with the sponsor and their husband taking issue with you helping people. If you love what you do, consider what different approaches you can take to improve your effectiveness.
Even if it's just one person you can have an impact on, it will only grow from there. Learn and practice Motivational Interviewing. It sounds like you've come to accept this is an issue at your meeting so consider different methods and approaches. Roll with the ambivalence and meet people where they are on their journey, especially when it comes to thise court mandated "I don't have a problem" moments.
That sounds frustrating. Dust off your feet and move on.
When I first got sober, it felt so good to chair. Me of all people I was excited and nervous about the what ifs. I thought what if I stumble the words or forget to do something and you know what, no one cared they just were happy for me. That’s AA for you, acceptance of my mistakes and forgetting to do stuff. And here I am 5 years and almost 5 months sober. I am grateful for all of you