I have a ? Why can't I find Amy ine interested in me to date me since I been sober. No one wants me any more it seems like. I do not want tk be single I hate being alone. So ehat is it with me??
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Hey man. From your profile you are less than 2 months sober, and going through a divorce. Perhaps being “alone” is what’s needed. I don’t know you or your story, and don’t want to come off as rude, but dude… chill. Sobriety is a marathon not a sprint. Get to know you first before asking someone else to join you. We need the time alone to figure things out. There are questions and answers you need to find. Are you in a program? Is this a relapse or first go round? Have you been to a therapist? I wish the best for you but jumping into a relationship before you are divorced and so early in sobriety just sounds like a recipe for disaster.
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Tim is right. From my perspective, and I lived it, you are bleeding from divorcing not to mention drowning in the beginning of sobriety. It’s a slow process about finding yourself. Are you going to figure out who you are 100%, never. We are human - beat ourselves up over raw emotions and change over time. Meetings help me and I learned quite a bit about myself being alone. I was with my ex for 20 years (high school days). Take it slow and be ok with who you are brother.
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I agree with Tim and Mike. Get yourself squared away first.
You need time for yourself I split up from my wife of 20 years and jumped in a relationship shortly after that for 3 months and that was the wrong way I didn’t love myself and was still not over it and heart broken it was a rebound and we had different paths you gotta find yourself and love yourself before you try to love someone else and give her your all with happiness and joy not a good idea of 2 months bruh you got a long way to go this isn’t a dating site bruh it’s a place where we all can relate and share what we accomplished and or trying to seek help then sure date if someone comes your way you find and help and love each other. Myself am going through seeking help I realize I can’t do it alone it’s why we are all here. Keep up the good work I was clean 1 year and relapsed which is easy too do! Bruh hope ya take the time and learn about yourself!!!
Yes, I agree with the above comments. You need time alone or you will be doomed to repeat the same pattern. Living alone and being alone is actually quite nice!