I have been sober 6 weeks. My wife went

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#1

I have been sober 6 weeks. My wife went to detox last weekend and now is going to treatment Tuesday. I feel responsible for her drinking. my kids, teens, barely will look at me let alone talk. My wife’s family cut ties with me for the most part, her mom is being civil. They are having a dinner tonight but I don’t want to see her brother as his perception of me is heartbreaking and actually said he never liked me, we have been together 10 years. So between my wife leaving for a month, my kids not talking to me, and not comfortable around her family… it’s a challenge. I guess these realities has helped keep me off the booze, and have not had cravings or urges.

I do go to an addiction counselor, and have checked out our local meetings but the AA really isn’t for me. So there is that, not that I haven’t been trying. I still read the book, which has helped me at my own pace.

Going to be a tough month, my bride is my everything but I know it’s definitely for her best interest, even know I realize ahead of time may not want to come back in the end.

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#2

Hang in there and keep going to the A.A. meetings. They’re for you, you’re just not for them yet. It will get better.

#3

The promises come true so hold on brother

#4

Hi Mike, I hope you are doing well. I just wondered if you are aware of secular AA. You mentioned that AA is not for you without an explanation and I thought maybe all of the "God talk" was the issue.

#5

No i do believe in God, the meeting environment was 80% reading the book and such and maybe 20% at best sharing. I expected it to be the opposite.

#6

That's actually kind of excellent news cuz that means AA might still be a feature in your recovery. There are tons of different types of meetings. It sounds like you hit a book study (I don't like them either) Many many many meetings are like what you were looking for. Just saying, you still Habs this wonderful option :slightly_smiling_face: