I have been working on STAYING sober for over a

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#1

I have been working on STAYING sober for over a year. Even though I have been sober most days and have strung together as much as 90 days at a time, I am still having a day here and there that I drink. What is wrong with me?????

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#2

I don’t know if there is anything “ wrong “ with you, Pam…
Alcohol is everywhere.
When you share “ here and there “, can you be more specific?

#3

…” a day here and there “…meaning / I am asking how much do you drink?
A glass?
A bottle?
Three bottles?

#4

I drink too much each time I drink, and I have been drinking sporadically. Sometimes twice in a week, then stay dry for days up to and including 90 days. Sometimes I will go two, three or four weeks dry then drink again for one day. My family is getting frustrated with me and I am as well.

#6

Nothing is wrong with you. If you'd like a book to read checkout Allan Carr's quit drinking without willpower. It changed my life.

#8

Hi Pam. I’m feeling just about the same as you…this is my first time replying to anyone as I’ve been following this group for about 8 months…you put my situation into words…I live with an alcoholic and sometimes gets extremely difficult…one thing I do know is every time I slip up.. I come back stronger!!! I’ve owned a tavern…and did 5 years sober at that time…so I’m away from that business for 10 years now but know I can live a happy, sober life. Just have to completely hand my life over to God :latin_cross:

#9

So you’re not sober for a year? Most days? Sober is a daily activity you can’t drink one day and say your sober because it wasn’t for a period of time. If you drink one sip you’re not sober. Let’s clarify that. What’s wrong with you is you’re not 100% committed to being sober. And who the heck on Loosid knows what’s wrong with you. You only know you live in your skin we don’t. But if you asked me, you don’t have the DESIRE to stop. You can’t drink alcohol dude! Simple as that. It’s like a diabetic who knows they can’t eat chocolate knowingly that if they do it will cause them harm and even potentially death. They still do it anyways cause they don’t care.

You can’t drink. Get that burnt in your skull.

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#10

Put that thinking energy into working out or something healthy. Stop obsessing over this drinking sober thing. Fill your day with activities that will make you feel good.

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#12

I’m glad you’re sober and serious with your program. However, I feel your posts lack respect for both this disease and the human beings that are struggling. This disease is cunning, baffling, and powerful. Your journey has just begun. I hope you can keep up the daily grind of sobriety ODAAT, and never have to come back again to pick up a white chip. If so, you’ll be in a very small minority of alcoholics/addicts that have done so. Tough love is good, but it’s better we’ll received with empathy rather than condescending arrogance

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#13

Live and let live brother. Everyone has their own journey. It took me a long time to get to the level of respect I currently have for my disease.

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#14

I know for me to be honest. I fight everyday for my sobriety and i find post that people are doing this half program I find it a trigger. You either do the program or you drink. Not both. Sorry. But I think we all fight daily to keep our sobriety and to just pick up a drink for most of us is a death sentence.

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#15

Thank you. I know for me. It’s either do the program or drink. Bottom line.

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#16

Absolutely nothing is wrong with you. It’s a disease. We process alcohol differently than other people. Diving into AA and working the steps works for me.

#18

Wow I will disagree

#19

Nothing is wrong with you
We drink because we like to drink
I am 29 years sober and I promise you
Nothing is wrong
What I know is we have to heal
Learn to live life on life terms
Focus on finding joy in every moment and make like worth it
And just maybe the magic will happen were your desire to drink leaves

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#20

Hey friend, just reiterating that nothing is wrong with you. How are you feeling today?

#21

Feeling great. I have been sober/dry for quite a few days now. No obsession at this time and doing it ODAAT. I will use the suggestions in this thread. God, exercise and keeping busy. I am soooo sorry if my situation triggered or harmed anyone. Please accept my apology.

#22

So glad you're feeling great!

#23

Pam, hi-how are you today, doing today?
Pardon my delayed response…just seeing yours today!

#24

I think there is always them days we feel like it but, we got to think of the consequences also.