I havent been able to tell any of my friends or family, but im coming up on 1 year of sobriety. I dont wanna burden anyone w my stuff but, keeping this to myself and the journey ive been on has been the most difficult hurdle to overcome. Will things get easier or is my way of thinking all im gonna experience from now on?
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No burden here brother! Man I can't wait to get a year behind me.
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I totally relate from my own journey. I was 5 years sober and felt like nothing inside me had really changed, even though I was off substances. I treated everyone else good but couldn’t figure out how to treat myself the same.
Sobriety alone doesn’t fully heal us, it stops the bleeding, but the deep stuff still needs work. What really shifted things for me was getting into therapy that taught me about trauma, how it sits in the body, and how to actually heal it with tools like DBT and somatic work. It wasn’t overnight, but once I started facing it head on, life started looking different.
You’ve already made it so far by being sober, now it’s about building on that foundation. Healing is 100% possible when you’ve got the right tools. Proud of you
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Wow, thank you so much for sharing that. I’m glad to hear there is a light at the end of the tunnel
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I agree Chrissy. Just stopping substance use is not enough. You have to make a new life with new activities for yourself so you never want to go back to substance use.
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Amen sisters! You need to figure out what you were trying to escape in the first place - and I am a huge advocate for DBT - I couldn’t stay sober without it because I am also a borderline
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Are you working a recovery program? I needed structure I needed a sponsor to believe in me when I didn’t. Find a recovery you feel comfortable NA has change my life all for the better. 
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10 to 20 years of Drinking will make a skeptic out of Anyone..... WE have false perceptions of reality... WE can create a HEALTHY PERCEPTION OF REALITY... IT IS A PROCESS.. GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION TO BE A LONG TERM THINKER TO CHANGE THINGS AROUND.. YOU CAN DO THIS.
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Your milestones should be celebrated I’m not sure they know unless you tell them.
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Share your great accomplishment!!!!!!!
I completely relate to this, but the more you talk and share, the more fruitful it becomes for you and others 
Beautifully said Crissy!
Congrats on your upcoming year Tom! If you don’t feel comfortable enough to share then that’s ok but you may also be surprised with the support you do get. Things will get easier, you got this!