I just downloaded this app because I'm scared. I'm losing everything. I stopped for a week then drank a few drinks three nights in a row. I just want to stop. My daughter won't talk to me, my husband is threatening to leave if I have even one more drink which I don't blame him. I always take it too far and drink way too much.
How do you come back from this?
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You've taken a great first step by downloading this app. I would recommend finding a therapist and start going to AA meetings. I would also recommend not making promises you can't keep at this time. Show your loved ones that you're serious about not drinking. Please feel free to reach out if you need to chat. Make today the beginning of your new life.
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You are recognizing the consequences from your drinking, that’s a great starting point and the hardest step to take. Kudos to you for that!
Although your loved ones are pushing you toward a change, you have to do it for you. Do you want to change?! I never thought it would be possible to stop but it absolutely is, countless individual have achieved that. The key is connection to like minded individuals and embarking on a journey of self discovery and healing. All the best to you! You’re worth it!
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I would definitely consider a treatment facility to jump-start your journey. Then, get heavily involved in AA or some other 12 step program. It feels impossible in the beginning but it will get better
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SURRENDER to the winning side! To the sober side. Everyone’s advice in this thread is good stuff.
Get into detox, go to AA meetings, get a sponsor, do the steps and don’t drink. Not next week, not tomorrow, not later today. Get into action right now. You can call AA Central office in LA. 1-323-936-4343.
Your family loves you and is telling you to get help. Junk the booze and opt in for the great life!
Sorry to rant, but I really want to help.
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Agree with all. Go to rehab and detox. Recovery and a great life is closer than you think. It seems really far away right now but it’s not. Just take action. Take the first step and keep doing the next right thing. You’ll be ok 
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I can't go to a facility I'm my family's only income.
Get to an online meeting or two to meet others and know you have support. 319 recovery is great - 24 hour zoom meetings. Been a godsend for me
Matthew Perry’s audio book can be found on YouTube. I read it and now listening to it. The man was an addict just like of us and he is gone now. Give it a listen. You are not alone.
You have to take that first step. Whether that be a rehab facility, checking yourself into the hospital, an AA meeting, etc. Regardless of what it is, you have to take the first step in that direction. The truth of it is though you won’t stop until you want to stop, and I don’t mean just want to, I mean you have to want to with every ounce of being in your body. It won’t be easy.
I recommend you checkout the book 'Alan Carr's quit drinking without willpower'. Reading it with an open mind will remove any desire you have to drink, if you follow the instructions. You can be free from alcohol and live a joyful life for sure.
You come back from this by discovering who you really are. And realizing that maybe things weren’t exactly as you’d thought in this world. I woke up one day and my marriage of twenty years as well as all I had worked so hard for was gone. Completely. No warning. It took a lot of pain for me to realize that I have been the problem all along and it’s time I shined the light on myself and figure this out. Today I’m grateful for all I’ve been through. You have a chance to not suffer as I had to. You can do this!!!!!!
If you don't get sober, you won't have a family to support.
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You are not alone reach out if you need to even to me I’m here for you keep going strong it’ll get much better I promise!
AA saved my life. Give it a try!
You don't get a full pay cut. Rehab is the answer. You are scared, you should be. I made every excuse in the book until I just let my guard down and went with the process. Think of how much money you will save without drinking, how much emotional freedom you will have and think about getting your life back. You deserve it, so does your family! Thinking of you until YOU are willing to surrender to the process.
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Being aware that you have a problem is key. Rehab is a great start if it’s something you can afford. Taking the first steps through the AA doors is hard, but there are people there that understand , care and want to help.
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Look up your local chapter of Alcoholics Anonymous. Call and talk with them. Find out when and where they have meetings and attend.
Millions of people just like you have found a solution there. You can too. 
Trust the process. You will make it. You are being introduced to yourself with FAILURE/SPIRITUAL SHIPWRECK. WE HAVE 5 LIVES. SPIRITUAL.. MENTAL.. PHYSICAL.. BUSINESS/EMPLOYEE... FINANCIAL. be HONEST WITH YOURSELF AND GET THE HELP YOU NEED AND YOU WILL CHANGE FOR THE BETTER.
It starts with going to meetings and getting a sponsor and solid support group. 90 meetings in 90 days is highly recommended but not necessarily doable for everyone. Now with online zoom meetings though it is much easier to do.
For me, doing my daily gratitude in this app makes a huge difference. It is hard to state each day what you are grateful for in sobriety and then go and risk it all that same day. Hard but not impossible which is why the meetings, sponsor and support group are also so necessary. Over time you will gain more and more tools and become increasingly effective at fighting those cravings.
Your family, I imagine, loves you and they will likely come around faster than you might expect however try not to place expectations on anyone but yourself as a general rule in life. After all, what would be fair would be a day of ignoring us for every day that we ignored the pain we were causing the ones we supposedly love. Some people may never forgive you and that to you will have to learn to deal with but those tools too you will find in the meetings and big book readings. I find it hard to imagine that your daughter will be upset with you forever. If so, that is her right.
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