I just turned 24 last month and im 9 days sober, finding it extremely hard to deal with my thoughts and feelings without drinking. The thought of being sober for the rest of my life feels intimidating. The only friends i had were people at bars, im not sure where to meet new friends with how bad my social anxiety can be, especially without drinking.
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The thought of being sober for the rest of your life is gonna be scary from time to time. I'm sure a lot of us feel that way as well but it's not the thought of being sober alone... it's the hard work it takes to not pick up the drink. May I suggest meeting sober people online until you're comfortable. I have anxiety being around people in general and it takes a long time to get comfortable with someone...even online
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Try 4 corner breathing. Gym, church, volunteer opportunities, are ways to build social connections without alcohol. You got this.
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@nora413986 you've been on this site for two hours. Sit back and enjoy the ride.
I was your age when I got sober on 25 December 1988. I've been sober over half my life. Do the math.
I too had the same thought of being sober for the rest of my life very intimidating.
Fear not... Sobriety is possible. Just take it one day at a time.
If I can do it you can do it.
Keep us informed on your progress.
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Most of us think the same....how am I gonna make it thru the day, let alone the rest of my life!?...and as for as dumb as it sounds in the beginning, it makes sense today and that's by doing it "one day at a time." I'll be real wit u, I don't know if I'll use or drink tomorrow, I really don't but one thing I can tell u, is that I sure ain't gonna drink or use today, no matter wat and that's for sure. That part I do know and I can't tell u how too live ur life, and I only have six months clean as of rite now but wat I can do is tell u wat has worked for myself. I don't think about tomorrow or next week, my only concern is wat I do today. Over the course of these six months I can c things clearer now, my heads not all messed up like it was, as I've grown thru these six months, I'm getting small things back that I lost years ago, one thing of most importance, is my drive and my ambitions and goals. Those r small wins that I'm winning on today. If u can't get urself to a meeting then look up some zoom meetings online, u can attend these from the comfort of ur own home on ur own time. but I encourage u too keep pushing thru. There r eople here on this community app that r some good people too talk to as long as u find the rite ones (there's a lot of fakes on here but they're easy too spot out) n if u wanna talk nemore I'm always available thru message. Hopefully I said something here that mite change something in u or even someone else.
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The emotions get easier to deal with in time and you'll find out how much better it is to actually feel them instead of numbing them. Now about making friends, you just gotta put yourself out there. Go to meetings to start, you'll feel welcome there. Then go do the things you like doing SOBER (it's great to find hobbies again that don't revolve around a drink) and talk to other people doing them. And be easy on yourself, you're just beginning on this path. But it will be worth it, that I promise you or your misery will be fully refunded. Much love from a grateful sober aa in nc
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