I keep relapsing over and over. Starting to come off

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#1

I keep relapsing over and over. Starting to come off alcohol and feeling shitty about myself as always. I don’t know how I can stay sober. :disappointed:

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#2

Hello Carinne, I'm sober 18 months this go round. This is what is working for me.

  • I went to IOP. It was mixed group. It helped me figure out why I drank.
  • find a program you are comfortable with. I go to AA but a friend goes to The Luckiest Club. It's zoom meetings but she prefers it. You have to like it or it won't help.
  • Get educated on alcoholism. Read Alcohol Explained by William Porter. It's easy to read and understand what Alcohol does to keep you addicted. Gillian Tietz has a website called Sober Powered. She's a recovering alcoholic and has a wealth of information there. Don't ever stop learning.
  • find God go to Church. There is something about prayer that helps
  • then after you have time under your belt help others
    Reach out anytime I will talk sobriety anytime
    Prayers always
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#3

Thank you for taking the time to reply. Means a lot that others care. I’d like to try IOP but I guess I made the excuse of not having health insurance. I go to AA but haven’t been in months. I haven’t been religious in years but willing to do anything at this point. Day by day I lose another friend because of my actions, they just don’t want to put up with me anymore​:sweat::confused: All I have left is my immediate family…and they almost want to disown me at this point.

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#4

if traditional aa doesn’t work for you, which isn’t technically religious but does have a lot of god talk and prayer, i love secular aa!

bit.ly/secularmeetings

i also love smart recovery. it’s lots of proactive tools that come in handy surrounding my addictions and just in life…my fave meeting is the tuesday/friday 6pm one from stateline, nv

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#5

You do not need god to get and stay sober. Anyone who tells you this is lying to you. There are many AA meetings that are secular (god free).

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#6

Yeah. I’m not a good person so maybe it should be something I incorporated into my journey.

#7

Religion doesn't have the monopoly on being "a good person". In fact just about every major war was fought over god/beliefs. Nothing "good" about that.

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#8

Hey Corinna: Thank-you for sharing your experience. Do you have a support group? Please don't try to do this by yourself. There's so much help out there! Personally, I make meetings. I love the freedom! Give yourself a break. There are helpful recovering people at your local 12-Step meeting.

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#9

What is IOP?

#10

I figured it out :upside_down_face:

#11

I have 10 months sober, I feel like I still need to figure it out. See if the state you are in offers free programs.
Talk to your insurance provider I'm sure they would rather pay
For you to get help than large medical bills. If you don't have health insurance, sign up for Medicaid. Consider in patient rehab for 30 days.
Just suggesting if you need support I am here to talk.

#12

Lol
the therapist I had was good. It was mixed substance and gender. My ins. covered about 1/2 the cost

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#13

Just another atheist here off to his free 12 step meeting that saved his life and then gave him a new life beyond his imagination.

A power greater than yourself doesn’t have to be a deity. When I sobered up a f’ing jail cell was a power greater than me.

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#14

I don’t have health insurance :confused:

#15

What state do you live in?

#16

That happened to me a few times. Not that this is your case but I was self medicating depression because I wasn’t dealing with my personal issues. Not that I needed a reason to drink, but I did that for a while. Then I snapped out of my funk, still drank, until I got sick. My advice is from what you wrote you already know some things that are going to happen when you stop drinking. Map out a plan to tackle the first few days. Go to meetings or see a friend, whatever it takes to keep you busy but mix it with something that makes you happy so you don’t get in a funk. Its little steps everyday at the beginning. They feel like giant steps but really its little things one day at a time. Good luck to you!!

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#17

Texas

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#19

I'm in Texas, was in Corpus but now I'm East Texas

#20

RecoveryDharma and Refuge Recovery are where I landed and life is beautiful again.