I know a big part of sobriety is changing your

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I know a big part of sobriety is changing your people places and things. I’ve done all of that, but the man I’ve loved for years I can’t seem to walk away from and it kills me. Everytime I’m with him he gets drunk, beyond drunk. Tonight I decided to spend some time with him; he spilled tequila all over me all over my car. Argued with me in public, cause a scene. It breaks my heart to know he’s not good for me; for my sobriety. But even him just being my friend, I know I can’t do it to myself any longer. He’s the one person I don’t know how to walk away from even with all the toxic. Just venting

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#2

Ya that is tough however part of sobriety is doing what’s good for you !!! Hang in there

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#3

I hope you get away from him. This seems like it could only end badly.

#4

I would try Al Anon for yourself. It’s wonderful. Very helpful for your exact situation.

#5

I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this. It makes me especially sad because I was definitely the person who was wreaking havoc and I was breaking someone's heart while doing it and put her in exactly the same situation you are in and she had to walk away from me for her own well being.

#6

It’s hard being in recovery and loving someone who isn’t. I know I have to Do what I need to, to stay sober. That’s what I’m going to do.

#7

I’m sorry Faith! Your not the only one to have to go through something like this and I know how hard it is. I think it might be the most difficult part of getting sober and changing for the better. But you are right. You know what you have to do. Who knows? Maybe losing you will be his bottom and force his hand? There is a path to the perfect relationship and you know which road to take. If it’s meant to be then it will be. I had the same happen to me. And relationship did not survive. It was so hard. But losing a toxic relationship was a small price to pay join the human race. Be strong! Better days are ahead!!

#8

I’m going through the same thing. It is hard.

#9

Maybe it's your lucky day maybe you'll learn that venting is the problem whenever I have to vent about someone they're out of my life all those drunken people around me made me want to drink all the time now I don't hang out with drunken people and I don't drink

#10

My mother dropped me off at the homeless shelter....you don't think that didn't break her heart? Tough love is sometimes what's needed. If not your just enabling him to continue to be well him