I know it's a bad idea but I'm trying to just not drink as much as possible but allowing myself one if Im out socially. I've been doing 2 for a while but starting to see 2 leading to more. Why cant just drink like a normal person!?
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You take the first drink the 2nd drink takes you
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So you know it doesn't work. So like, stop. Get to meetings and meet other drunks who know what you're dealing with because they've been there!
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For me, I only found out I couldn't stop when I tried to limit my drinking or then tried to stop without help. I was shocked and horrified to discover I couldn't go three to four days without a drink. I also discovered I didn't know when I would break out in a drunk. But I would get blind drunk without planning on it. I made my life a mess. I had no way out. I had no answers. I found out a friend went to AA. When I asked he took me to meetings. There I heard people who felt what I felt. I heard people I could relate to. But these people weren't drinking at all. I got hope there even though I couldn't understand why I felt it.
You may need to hit a deeper bottom. I hope not. But knowing without question that you are a alcoholic is without question a good thing. Just remember that for alcoholics our ultimate bottom is either death, prison or insanity. AA meetings can be a great beginning to a life you always secretly dreamed of but couldn't experience.
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Genetic predisposition likely. Some of us simply can't drink because we are unable to stop due to genetics or whatever reason. You just need to come to terms with it and stay away from booze. You likely should do a detox and attend some groups if not a full on rehab to help get your sober journey started. Depending on how you drink , I can't recommend a medical detox more, but sounds like you've knocked down the amount to where you aren't physically dependent. So the groups/ cognitive therapy in rehab, etc will help with the mental aspect. Good luck. Strength and Serenity
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It’s the disease of addiction sweet girl. Addicts unfortunately can’t do even one of their drug of choice. If you’re doing it socially I’m assuming that’s with “friends” and they should support your sobriety. I suggest finding a new group who supports your need to stay clean. You’ve got this!!
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I tried that method and it didn’t work. My problem was I didn’t need to drink everyday but when I did I didn’t know how to stop. Surround yourself with sober friends who know what you are going through. I’ve tried quitting multiple times and I’ve realized that the friends that would go out drinking with me all of a sudden stopped showing up once I started to try quitting. Those aren’t real friends. Those are drinking buddies.
It’s alcoholism not alcoholwasm. Acceptance is key.
We’ll put!
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There's no such thing as "drinking like a normal person." It's addictive to everyone. Some of us just have brains that are even better at learning those addictive loops quickly but it's a sliding scale. Absolutely everyone would have a problem stopping at 2 if they drank enough in their life. And a lot of those "normal people" will become more addicted over time if they don't quit. Alcohol hijacks perfectly normal learning centers of the brain to do its addictive thing. And those addictive loops stay for a loooong time after you quit so that when you have "just one with friends" they're ready. There's nothing wrong with you. Nothing. Alcohol is the problem.
If you're up for a book, I highly, highly recommend This Naked Mind by Annie Grace. It really helped me to feel at peace with exactly the feelings you're describing, and to feel really great about my decision to go fully sober.
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This was helpful for me to hear! Thank you, I’m going to check out that book
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The real question should be, "why do I feel I need to drink like a normal person?" Not "why can't I drink like a normal person?"
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I tried, told, and never worked for me. I’m praying for you​:heart:
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Thank you. Very helpful information. I'll check that book out.
Because we aren’t normal. 
It’s either drinking or no drinking at all. Once a person admits they have a problem, there’s really no turning back. Get a good read in and evaluate who you hang around with. This Naked Mind is ok. Living Sober is really good. Terri is a book by a governor who’s daughter died from alcoholism. I think the book called “Drink” is another good one. Sorry, can’t recall the name but there’s a wine glass outline on the cover of it. You’ll get there if you want to! Focus on yourself and not the others.
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It might not be an accident that you're here.
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I appreciate the book recommendations love!
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You my friend are what they call an alcoholic. Admitting that is half the battle. Just one drop of the devil's juice is enough to wake him up and start wreaking havock to you life. Don't be fooled by "social" drinking. Just because it's socially acceptable doesn't negate the fact that they are all diseased. If you are serious about getting sober, it is essential to eliminate any person, place, or thing that may tempt you to give in to your disease.
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