I’m 143 days sober and am feeling unmotivated, barely taking care of myself. I feel ugly and self conscious and don’t really know where to begin
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When I was newly sober people would say “just remember, you never have to feel this way again.” And as much as I felt awful, I would put one foot in front of the other, get done exercise and get to at least one meeting a day. And guess what?? It worked. Here I am, 17 years sober!
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Thank you Janice!! I never want to ever have to feel this way again. I appreciate the kind words and will follow your lead!
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I struggled in early sobriety (for 15 years) until it finally took. I was tired of feeling down, depressed, worthless and I knew that I could not drink away my pain. Every day I would wake up to the same problems but only worse because of the physical toll I was putting myself through.
For me, I found a sober companion and that helped tremendously. That was way before Loopsid or any other sober apps or programs. It was just AA. Together we discovered the joy of taking back our lives. Breaking the addictive curse is difficult in your own. Continue to reach out on here and hopefully you will also find some local supporters.
If nothing else, you’ve got us to help. Know that no one does it perfectly and that you only need to work at it one day at a time.
I’m pulling for you!!!
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Oh, and this time I am 20 months (and 2 days) sober!
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When I was early in sobriety I hated the man looking back at me in the mirror. I was so full of anger and guilt… I thought I was worthless. It took a deep look into who I wanted to be to jump that hurdle. You are a beautiful woman, on the outside… the question is what do you look like on the inside? If you can love who you are, the battle is won. If you can do the next right thing you have it beat. Keep your head up. We have your back!
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143 days is a long time without a drink! Keep it going and stay connected to your sober network. When I had that emotional roller coaster going on, it seemed like that feeling was going to last forever. (It can still happen for me, but I stay active and feel encouraged that it will pass) Be good to yourself today 
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Thank you all for your support!! This has helped me immensely
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A companion is exactly what I need! Someone who is going through the same thing so we can combat it together. Thank you for the kind words of encouragement Christopher!!
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Those feelings are normal but congrats on 143 days! That’s awesome … take some time for yourself , do something that always use to make u smile or put u in a good mood … hang in there
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Loved everything about this!!!! We have similar mentalities so this was def helpful
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Congrats on 143 days! That’s a long time without a drink.
You’re certainly not ugly, but you need to believe that. Just keep doing the work. Show up when you don’t want to. Eventually your thinking will change.
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Congrats on 143 days sober!! It’s hard to get motivated sometimes. Start with something simple like a shower first thing in the morning. Make your bed each day. Can you get to a meeting? Even one on zoom would be helpful. One day at a time. Do you have a Higher Power? I have God in my life and that helps me a ton when I’m depressed or anxious. I talk to God cause God is my new best friend. I’ll pray for your healing. This shall pass.
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Hang in there, one day at a time.
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This is completely understandable and relatable... I think that even people who have never struggled with addiction find themselves finding trouble staying motivated at times so don't think your alone in that cuz you're def not. I have 19 months and 7 days and I still struggle with everything you said. I've always struggled with low self-esteem too so being self-conscious about myself comes with the territory. We have to remember that regardless of the program we're working for our sobriety it has to be taken one day at a time. Some days will be harder than others and on those days we only need to worry about maintaining our sobriety at any cost and everything else can take a back seat. But the beauty is we get to tackle our problems with a level head and clear mind and one thing we know for sure is that drinking or getting high will put a temporary band-aid on the problem that once removed will rip the wound open more. One thing I will tell you is that it does get better over time. Those days have become less and less the further I've gotten into my sobriety and when they do come it's easier to get out it. Do something nice for yourself. Whatever that may be, a hot bath, a cup of coffee and a good book, take a walk. Not every day has to bring substantial progress, just as long as you don't regress. Hope this helps a little
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Congratulations on 143 days! I feel the same way I have 6 months on the 20th. I feel like things aren't happening in my life fast enough. But I just keep praying everyday and go to meetings and hope things get better. But trust me I know how you feel. It feels like is this even making a difference in my life or that's how I feel lol
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That’s exactly how it’s done 
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Right before 5 months I was really depressed but I thought about my life before I got clean/sober and realized how much happier I actually was doubled up on my meetings and step work and by 6 months I was extremely happy with my life sure it's not perfect my compared to before it is...
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Wow I love what everyone is saying here. I thought everything was going to be fixed when I stated in recovery. But I didn’t feel like doing anything. I had great social anxiety, so it was thought for me to be apart of a group. But I started to really be apart of AA. I’m meeting new people that are just like me. I thought I was terminally unique. These people help me get out of isolating and feel better about myself. Congratulations on your time, unfortunately this is something we have to work on everyday.
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So true!!! I appreciate the advice
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