When I’m in recovery, I’m a very loving, caring, empathetic human. When I relapse and am using, I’m selfish, I lie ((a lot)), I isolate myself from loved ones, etc. All I can think about during this current binge is: “I’m a really really bad person, I’m a burden to everyone in my life…I’m just a terrible person” I know guilt and shame can help you get sober, but this constant thought pattern is too much for me. It makes me use even more. It’s very overwhelming.
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You’re not a bad person, you’re just a lost person doing bad things . You will find your way, I have Faith in you !!
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Your not a bad person …. Just gotta get some direction …. U can do this … just gotta out the work in … reach out whenever for any advice or just to chat .. stay positive , u got this …
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You’re not a bad person, we are all damaged and need to find our way. Not sure what you’re feelings are on God but I always feel like He isn’t happy with me if I’m not doing everything right. But I am starting to learn how wrong that thinking is. God is a good God and loves us no matter what the same way I feel about my kids no matter what they do or how bad off they get I still love them and want to help them and want to see them succeed.
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There is a difference between “being” a bad person, and behaving like a bad person. You are a sick person that is suffering from an illness. Without help, this illness will keep you stuck in the bad behaviors and keep pushing you further and further down into the abyss. It took quite a while, lots of therapy, the 12 steps, many meetings, lots of podcasts and quit lit, etc. to be able to feel good about myself. I was a disaster for many years. The process of healing will take time and work. However, I promise it’s possible, and it’s worth it. I hope you can get some help, and start your recovery journey ASAP
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Use that anger towards alcohol. The way you feel about being a bad person direct that energy to alcohol. Alcohol is the bad person , alcohol is the burden NOT YOU ! Switch that energy of hate to your self to the drinks . Learn to hate & despise it 
you got this 
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That’s a great idea, thank you <3 alcohol is not my doc but I can apply it to what I use of course!
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Thank you <3
I appreciate it!
Thank you for being here for me Al
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My great friend helped me turn the energy i spent on ehh into productive energy. Challenging, but effective
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You are not a bad person, you are suffering right now in this terrible addiction! If you can see yourself being sober you have to make sacrifices and you have to be disciplined. For me I got so tired of being sick and tired in myself and I knew I had to change? Dreams without goals are just dreams. Don't regret this life that has been given to you,it truly is a Blessing!
Hey friend, recognizing that you don't like your behaviour when using is good. Wanting to sober up and stay sober is also good. Shame is bad. We can use our dislike of our behaviours as motivation but we need to remember that we can be blessings to others with our lives, we simply must do so and stop using most likely. Shame tells you that you can't do to or that you're not worth to, and shame is a lie. If you believe in God then shame is a tool that God's enemy uses to make our lives worse. You are uniquely made, and can live a rich and fulfilling life, sharing joy with others.