I’m building my "sober toolkit." Besides meetings and water, what is ONE thing that saved you in the first month? I need to add to my list! 
I need coping skills/mechanisms. I already have BPD and need help please.
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Don't let other people's opinions of you, affect YOUR opinion of you 
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Def needed that I'm an extreme people pleaser when I shouldn't be
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AA meetings
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The following books
- Back to Basics
- The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous,
- 12 steps and 12 traditions
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CONGRATULATIONS on your 14 days of sobriety.
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Easy does it goes a long way. Be kind to yourself you are starting an amazing LIFE path. I still go to my beginners meeting. We work out the Living Sober book Full of ideas for you!! “ It works it really does” 
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I engaged on Facebook groups. Even when I was struggling I showed up for others who were struggling and in that I learned a lot about myself
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Keep up the good work it’s all done one day at a time and then they start to add up. The main thing for me is waking up sober and going to sleep sober. Meetings a sponsor, and my support system continues to help me in my journey.
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Try a new hobby. Coloring with crayons and gel pens. Painting those sculptures at dollar tree,you can try planting something easy like potatoes. You can do that in a regular bucket, crossword puzzles. coping skills examples
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Positive self talk. 
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Working The Steps.
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Trying new things or old things you abandoned.
Plus at least 90 meetings in 90 days.
Listening to others in recovery as I always thought I knew better.
I was celebit for the first year which was a game changer for me (and has been for many others).
Removing initimate relationships meant a lot more stability and progress. It was not easy, but in hindsight was sound advice that I never thought would matter.
When thoughts of loneliness popped up, I looked to see what I could fix in me.
My inventory, my step work, literature. I also connect with other 12 step members and talk about things that they tried and tried them too.
I eventually started asking other members to meet for coffee or tea.
I started being a tourist in the city I lived in. Doing it alone was initially awkward, but also allowed me to do it my way and made me more comfortable with who I was becoming.
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Stay in the present. Anxiety is living in the future depression is living in the past. It really is one day at a time.
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Try the 54321 meditation when times get rough
name 5 things you see, 4 things you can touch, 3 things you hear, 2 things you smell, and 1 thing you can taste
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Staying busy like everyday all the time and staying away from former people I use to use with
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Writing anything and everything good, bad doesn’t matter. Sometimes I write hate letters to myself and other days how proud I am. There’s days I’m so angry and days I’m just sad.
My head never shuts up, writing, getting it out really has saved me.
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Not sure if you have a sponsor but hopefully you have some phone numbers of people you can call BEFORE you pick up. I always admitted after the fact that I relapsed but I never asked any of my friends before I drank if they agreed that drinking was the way to go. Of course, I know they will tell me it's a bad idea!!! 
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