I’m coming up on a year and the last few days p.a.w.s has been really bad I’m easily frustrated and annoyed and things that usually don’t bug me are driving me insane. Everything really started when I had to talk with my ex I used with him for 9 very abusive years and I had to talk to him for the first time in almost a year because of our daughter I don’t really know how much I should allow him to be apart of his daughter’s life he has threatened to kid nap her and used and beat me In front of her and I personally don’t want anything to do with him but is it right to make that choice for her she is 6
If can speak honestly with you. If he is a good father it sounds like you might be holding a lot of resentments. Particularly towards your ex. Forgiving someone is not for the person who has done us wrong but mostly for ourselves. Forgiving doesn't mean we will tolerate what has happened or allow it to happen again but allows us to accept what has happened and peacefully move foward. Holding resentments is like us drinking poison and expecting the person who harmed us to die. It very toxic for our well being. This could be where the anger, frustration and irritability could be originating from.
If he's not a good father or role model for your daughter then it won't be in your daughters best interest to be around him. If he is a good father and role model then you would be doing more harm to your daughter than good by not allowing her to bond with and get to know him. Just my opinion though.
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