Hi Holly. I quit drinking over 2 years but my wife didn’t. I’ve talked to her about having alcohol in our home and she seems she doesn’t care. I’m to the point where I want out & be by myself. I’m doing too good for her to ruin my life. 18yrs of being married to her and I’m done. Just don’t know how to tell her. She’s the confrontational type of woman and I feel she may take it as if I’m seeing someone else and get violent after I tell her. I’ve been faithful and she has always accused me of seeing someone else. She’s 5 years older than me and she treats me like a 5 year old child..Sorry for venting but I don’t love her anymore and don’t know where or who to talk to about my feelings. Don’t get my family involved into any of my problems or business. Wish me luck… Paul
Hey there, your message touched my heart. I know the feeling. I’m here if you want to chat. I fell out of love after 23 yrs I get it. Your deserve to be happy. The one who accuses usually is the one cheating. Card to chat send me a text. Praying for your sanity. Remember we don’t have to use or drink over this. It a long road ahead.. keep your head high. Do you boo you’ll get through this. Cindy
Hello Holly, please don't let temporary emotions be a permanent mistake? Your feelings are valid and I can relate. About a year ago I got divorced for the second time to the same woman after 25 years 
yeah I know it's enough to make your head spin when you and your partner no longer see eye to eye? Did you and your husband stop drinking together? It's sounds like he maybe resentful of that decision especially if he was not ready to be sober? By you surrendering you are able to grow and maybe that anger has him stuck? I hope you guys can work through this. Never give up on someone you love, it might be worth it?
Don’t let yourself be a hostage. You know what the best thing to do is.
I totally understand your situation. I can’t give much advice because my marriage ended in divorce. My ex liked drunk me and decided I was not fun anymore. She never stopped keeping alcohol in the house and she would get trashed right in front of me. She would not go to counseling. Finally she left me for another guy who drinks. I could have caved to the pressures of drinking, the easy way out but I chose to be committed to my decision to be sober. I am hear to talk if you ever need it.
Unfortunately he may just be a dry drunk. I would try counseling yourself. As humans can’t change anyone but ourselves. 🫶
I have always heard take the mess to your sponsor and take the message to the group. I also think there are specialists and professionals that are better at helping with some things that AA is not designed to help with and I hope things work out for the best. God’s will not my will be done.
I can absolutely relate to this feeling
Completely relatable. My marriage dissolved after 19 yrs, and he blamed my sobriety. In honesty, I healed, and we grew on different paths. Thankfully we dissolved amicably, because we both saw that we wouldn’t even last a 30 minute conversation with each other anymore.