I’m having a really off couple of days. I don’t

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#22

Hang in there, some days are better than others. Here’s a quote that helped me when I feel down sometimes…
“I used to HAVE to do things, today I GET to do things.”
Today you get to choose to find a new support group, or you get to find another hobby or distraction, you are aware enough to realize that this is troubling and you get to do something to change it. You’re doing awesome!

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#23

I never went to an NA meeting that I liked. They all seemed full of toxic people, I even had people trying to sell me sh*t outside of a few.
Horrible (speaking from my experiences only of course. If you've got a good group and it helps then stick with it)

#24

I’m sorry to hear that. At least you noticed. That’s the fifth step. Start at 1 and work the resentment

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#25

I find service works for me! I got to give it away to keep it and gets me out of my head! Heather, you are in your head, don't analyze because all we do is obsess. Carry the message to other addicts, it'll change the direction of your life! You're a Winner!

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#26

Hey Heather, I'm sorry it's been so rough for ya. I hope it gets better soon and I know you can own up and conquer.

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#27

Hi Heather! That's rough and I am sorry for your struggle. Obviously, I can only speak for myself... but when I am going through tough days I find embracing the fact that I am actually feeling through the low times (rather than self medicating through them) is a MAJOR win. I may not know you, but I am proud of you. Sober navigation is the most rewarding process (even though it stinks!). This too shall pass. The fact that you want and expect more is a reflection of your personal growth. The fact that you are reaching out is testimony to what a remarkable person you are! Thank you for reading my novel! Keep up the good fight💝

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#28

So sorry Heather I’ve been there … there are many paths to recovery . I started off in AA and then moved on to learning more tools in Smart Recovery and Celebrate Recovery . You’re never alone . We’ve all been there and have experienced trials and pain. Looks like you’re doing all the right things . Be kinder to yourself . You’ll get though this .

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#29

Ally’s comment…
Regarding getting to versus having to…yes.
I read those words years ago…and try to remind myself of this very same thing!

I have also read and heard that life does not happen “ to “ us … realities happen “ for “ us.

I wish I could read each comment while have some things to take care of.
Heather, thank you for sharing your post!

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#30

Thank you.

#31

Thank you. I appreciate it. The day was honestly bad because the person who was going to take me to the NA convention and let me stay in the hotel room with them in November has dropped or took back her invite because of the lies being told about me. So I’m just not sure what to do now. I resent NA as a whole.

#32

I appreciate it. I wish I had more to say. That’s better. I don’t.

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#33

I feel exactly the same way you are poignant

#34

When my life feels unbearable,

I don’t always say a prayer, I don’t always call someone else to ask how they are doing…. and listen to them….,
I don’t always go to a meeting and share how it sucks to be me,
I don’t always look at all the good things in my life and write a gratitude list,

but when I do any of these things I do feel better

so just for today I will keep sharing and keep coming.

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#35

Then everything got so much worse. Absolutely everything. I give up you know

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#37

I remember my first time at a meeting, it was in support of someone I was dating. The NA that we found was like this and it made her uncomfortable after a few visits. We ended up eventually going to an AA across town and it was just the opposite. The average age was a good 15 years older and the mentality went from, here "because I gotta be" and "mean girls" to ""here because it's good for me" and "mentors."

If you are some place that offers more than one meeting w/in a 30 minute distance, I suggest visiting them all. Even if you find one you like. You never know when that might change getting or say Wednesday isn't optional anymore and you might find one has something the other doesn't even though you prefer one but may occasionally need other.

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#41

And as you said we all have our own problems, and we all are worth the same no matter how you feel in God’s heart! “Do the do’s.”:love_you_gesture::sun_with_face:🫂:pray::rose: You have some wonderful things coming as long as you keep coming back.

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