I was ghosted by my bestie after she was in a bad mood and was calling this nurse a dumb b word I said ok whatever floats your boat she never talked to me again. 3 years of friendship talking every day multiple times a day down the drain. But you know what? I figured out that if I was important to her I wouldn't have been so easily thrown away. And that's no real friendship. Whatever your situation if they're ghosting you then they're probably not worth your time and respect anymore anyway. Stay strong. Go to a meeting if that's your thing. New doors will open in time.
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I’m sorry 
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I’m so sorry. That is a horrible feeling. For me, it took me a long time to recognize what a crappy person I’ve been. I learned a lot about who is a friend and who is not. Truth is people handle what they can and let go of what they don’t know what to do with. Plus, I don’t know your situation but a lot of friends preferred me as a drinker. I can never tell if they left because of drinking or because I quit.
Anyway trying to move ahead and meet new people who get where I am. Best to you.
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If you're in early sobriety(less than a yr minimum), you don't need any relationships anyway. Give time, time and get yourself figured out first. You will eventually be looking through a totally different set of lenses and see things in a different light.
This will lead to making better choices.
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I know that feeling all too well bub.. believe it or not it does get better and maybe with time your situation will change.. stay positive and stay strong 
you got this! One day at a time, one minute at a time if you have too..
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I’m 5 months sober today!! I don’t do drugs. And I’ve been with her for 5years and we have 1 1/2 year old boy. I’ve got a sponsor and I’m on the 8th step life isn’t that bad.
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Thanks Eric one day at a time.
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You’re welcome! And Congratulations on the 5mo bub, that’s quite the achievement.. I saw ya mentioned it.. I’m approaching 6mo myself and it’s been a struggle but worth the effort..
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I don't know your personal situation. I was married for over 7 years up until around 1992. When my wife and I first met, we drank well together, and so we got married.
We had 2 boys together. Somewhere along the line I decided that I needed to get help with my drinking problem. It seems like the more I pulled one way, she pulled the other, and it eventually led to us getting divorced.
I hope you're going to meetings. If you are doing everything that is suggested, just give time, time.
Things don't always play out the way we originally want them to but they do work out.
And sometimes life sucks even after sobriety. The difference is we don't have to drink about it and so life gets better.
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Everyone gets ghosted at some point. Once I dropped my phone I. The lake amd my ex thought I was ghosting her. Shite happens. I once thought God placed seemed in my life to layer realize ot was more likely satan had.
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Affirmation that has helped me, “I will not allow you to make me feel this way”. Control what you can. Stay strong dude!
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Hope ur doing ok Jeremy
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