I’m not good at asking for help at all, I’ve been going through h*ll and back for the last 2 yrs, there’s so much to it but I just moved home and my ex finally is leaving me alone I was doing good and now I just can’t idk I’m just tired of everything, I’m not happy, it took a lot to write this but if anyone has time I don’t have many ppl left after my ex and it’s been really hard. Thank you
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Jump into recovery. Find local meetings. Say, hi, my name is Michelle and I’m new to this when they ask newcomers to say hi at beginning of meetings. You’ll get support and meet folks who care and want to help. Get plugged in. AA, NA, Smart, anything that fits your fancy. Build up that support, in real life. This online stuff should just be a fill in. Not the only support.
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What K Brad said. Go to some women's meetings and make some friends irl.
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Distraction is critical. Try things you used to enjoy before being caught up in the throws of addiction. You may find you love them again after your neurochemistry has normalized some in sobriety. Hang out with sober friends/family more...if you have them of course. Be sure to do all the mundane things you should be doing daily anyway such as brushing teeth, washing face, shower , whatever ( I have a list of 30 everyday). You'd be surprised how much time that takes up and how much distraction it provides. And as they mentioned above, seek some local meetings in AA, NA, or SMART. If you have the energy , exercise is soo great in improving your psyche at this point ( I pretty much only do cardio for mental health these days). Stay strong. ODAAT
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if you haven’t meditated i would recommend to try it out or go for a walk somewhere in nature even a park is fine, pay attention to the wind and the leaves and let yourself understand everything is temporary no matter what it is, the ground you walk on the shadow you step is all in motion don’t ever forget that and there is always something new around the corner this is why life is short hopefully one day you will wake up from this negative anxiety filled energy…the world is merely a moving stream.
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Great comments. I like this concept of dopamine stacks. What I do every day is plan how I am going to get organic dopamine activated in my brain. I make my bed. That is the first win of the day. go to the gym in the AM b4 work (this is new and great). I quit coffee bc it messed me up and drink chai tea 
so before 9 AM I have 3 things that make me feel good. From there it's work but then I plan another dopamine stack in the PM. A nice snack, a walk, good music, on and on. You can do it. Just be patient with yourself.
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I’m here to chat if you need it! I’ll send you a friend request 🩵
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Hi Michelle, I understand how we can often find ourselves in a difficult place but for those times, reaching out to a community or closed ones is important and that's what you did so you're already on the right track. Thank you for reaching out to the community for help and to listen to you, we are all here to help one another go through recovery and you will find people to talk and express your feelings to. Also, as other users have mentioned, seeking hobbies and in person meetings will allow you to not only enjoy yourself but let your emotions out on an important face to face interaction. If you feel the need, seek professional help as they are qualified to assess what you are going through. I hope you feel better soon!
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Yes, get to meetings. There is a solution there.
Thank you hun, I might take u up on that thank you it’s like I lost everyone when I was with my ex and other reasons too so I really have like no one to talk to about this, I can’t be open about it with my parents it’s so hard
Ya it’s definitely hard some days to even wanna get just the basic things done and lately it’s been the bare minimum 
I’ve been trying to do different things and trying to read my book but then I’ll make an excuse for myself and how many times Ives said my last time it kills me i just feel like I hate myself right now and I’m going in a circle of pain and I can’t even think of the money it makes me sick, I have my first in person therapy tomorrow have talked on the phone with her onew but rather do in person
thank you
Thank you everyone, really, it’s hard for me to ask for help cause everyone always says ya kno like no one really gives a st about you and no one wants to be around a depressed person so I work n stay home and with thinking like no one really cares also like my therapist I always felt like why do they give a st about me and I think I’m on state so it’s not like I’m even paying her I mean I kno she is getting paid but idk y I tthink like that
Get involved in your recovery. Meet people go to meetings. There are so many of us out there that a probably saying the same thing. I felt lonely but now I have a full recovery team that keeps me grounded. Your life is worth saving.
Keep reaching out to people in recovery, we’re definitely here for you because it’s better to talk about whatever you might be going through rather than doing something or anything that’ll only end up hurting you, your future, your health, your sobriety. 🫶