I’m struggling with abandonment issues and worrying constantly and taking

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I’m struggling with abandonment issues and worrying constantly and taking adderal I just feel sad all the time was in a bad relationship for 25 years my two oldest sons don’t speak to me even though I mad bad choices and begged for forgiveness I just want to be happy for once in my life

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I have gotten help 4 times I do good for awhile and when I feel down I think I need it again but it makes me worse I’m in therapy now but thanks for your suggestions

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#6

Adderall makes it worse

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#7

Thanks

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#8

I am sorry. Have you tried meditating or mindfulness? For me getting some peace in my mind and thoughts helps put some space btwn the cravings and painful thoughts I try and numb. Peace.

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#9

I agree it takes what it takes - I went to rehab twice and learned so much but at the end of the day we have to want to change. I ended up taking antibuse and knowing I would get violently ill kept me sober and now 63 days in I am beginning to use many of the tools I learned in rehab - its a process - you CAN do this Jessica :heart:

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#10

I just started therapy and I’m starting to practice cbt it’s not easy but I will give it my all my abandonment issues is ruining my life and I will do whatever it takes to overcome this

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Is it CBT ?

#12

If anyone can tell me how to overcome these issues it would be greatly appreciated

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#13

Thank you

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Sorry it’s so difficult…. Emotional pain can be more painful then physical pain…. Sorry. CBT or meditation/mindfulness can help you…. I tried to meditate in the past but really struggled, the win hoff method was a great place to start as it helps you learn to breathe and get out of your head into your body…. Once you can quiet your mind a bit with breathing and meditation you can learn to let go of a lot of these painful emotions, it takes work but breathing and mindfulness can really help. Check out some of these types of strategies:

You can do it.

Peace.

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I'm not sure i know there is DBT and mindfulness . I've read many memoirs of people in recovery and I do some workbooks . Meetings are good too just to hear other peoples experiences :purple_heart:

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Lots of reading and research. I have severe abandonment issues and I have been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. I'm not always a big fan of labels but I've done some reading on it and it seems to fit. There is a workbook I am working on too - I will get you the name of it if u like :grinning:

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#17

I have dealt with abandonment issues. It wasn’t easy. But I wanted a better life and not to struggle anymore. I was around 3 years sober when I started down that journey. I worked really close with my sponsor. I also attended ACA meetings. There’s a lot of help out there if we are willing to do the work.

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#18

It's says Duval I'm assuming in Jax fl and Gateway has a great program and it's free pretty much

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#19

Yes I would appreciate that I was diagnosed with CPTSD but I’m almost sure I have borderline personality disorder also and I’m about to lose my marriage I desperately need help

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I want to encourage you. After a bit of time with discord between me and two of my kids we are now on very good terms. It took some time and a bit of prayer and patience all around. When we finally could communicate without confrontation the issues dissolved. Praying for you.

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Sorry for the long delay
How are u doing today?
The workbook is call " mindfulness for addiction" by Rebecca Williams and Julie kraft
It is so incredibly helpful....go slow and take in everything its saying and answer the questions :purple_heart:

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#22

Thank you

#23

Adderal will make your nervous system totally out of whack and also mess with your sleep so it makes issues that are triggered by anxiety like abandonment issues way worse. The best thing you can do is start slowly cutting your dose down every few days and get off of it. Also try reading the book Attached by Amir to learn about your attachment type. It will change your life!

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