I’m struggling with living with my parents. I divorced this summer over our alcoholism and had to move in with my parents due to health and money issues. They affect my sobriety daily. I try to talk to them about it, I try to just avoid as much as possible and Monday through Friday while working is fine. The weekends are a struggle to stay sober. I personally have chosen to not drive yet as I am back to only being 3 weeks sober and don’t trust myself to not go to a package store. I want to leave this weekend to a friends (sober) but I know my parents will just start a fight and it will lead me tempted to drink again. I am just struggling
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One day at a time - I Think about how good it feels to wake up sober every day.
Sometimes it’s hard to make decisions that hurt. It sounds like you maybe need to set some boundaries. Early recovery is hard and you need to protect yourself. Stick with sober people or friends that understand you. Meetings AA or any other programs can help you out. Stay the course it’s worth it. Stay safe🤗
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Have you hit any meetings? I've been where you are at and it isn't easy. If you get connected with like minded people the struggle becomes less and less..
In my opinion, your parents may not be the most practical resource to discuss your struggles. Obviously I know nothing about them, but they may hold resentment about your history or are only able to see you in a particular light. Talk therapy or AA might be better solutions. I always felt it was more helpful to speak with an independent, unbiased 3rd party. Someone who doesn’t know you and will not show up with preconceived notions about your intentions. Good luck, and congratulations on taking the first steps towards personal freedom.
I was before I had fell of the wagon for a few days. I’m heading back tonight for the first time. They help, but coming home still doesn’t help the situation unfortunately
Go back to meetings, make female connections and do sober non AA related things to soak up some of that free time.
I can totally relate my dad has health problems so I moved in with him to help him after rehab, I've moved out twice cause I don't have to live there but he needs help I've taken at least 3 drug test to prove that I'm clean the most recent a month ago and I'm almost 14 months so I feel ur pain but I have moved out because I feel my sobriety was in jeopardy and I will again if it comes to that, I know how that kind of stress can make it hard stay strong.
Sometimes life's situations can be frustrating. Meetings can help change your perspective on these situations. Just keep going to meetings, you're worth it!
Same exact situation. Divorced bc of addiction issues. My parents are witnessing the consequences of my emotional regression and they are appalled to say the least. My mom and I share similar character defects and with my resentments towards her on top of it makes it a toxic environment. No one besides maybe my ex wife gets my blood boiling like my mother. I assume your parents love you and want to see you succeed. Do both of yourselves a favor. set some boundaries and recognize the behavior patterns that lead to the turmoil with your parents. Talk recovery with people who understand your situation and and remember, there is no manual on how to deal with your 40 yr old emotional teenager. They’re doing the best they can. But can only do so much with something they can’t fully comprehend. Compassion is key. We’ve hurt people for far too long. I won’t be that person anymore. My life depends on it. You’re exactly where you need to be.
Noreen, returning to the home after total freedom is difficult for almost everyone….they only know you the drunk and the little girl….its up to you to just continue to take full responsibility for your disease and grow past them because you are incredibly valuable so lets prove it to the world ! Keith Kayle
This is a difficult transition phase for you and you feel triggered there and unsettled… Expected but fucked up at the same time. More to follow
Move out