I’m struggling with my ex abuser narcissist alcoholic, who’s holding my children hostage from me and weaponizing the court system to keep them from me. I have jumped through all of the hoops, even after they lit them on fire and changed the obstacle course. I’ve been sober 3 1/2 years, and I’ve never worked this hard without seeing results sooner than now.
Kids are smart. They will likely grow to resent the weaponization. My mom told me this for a decade after my divorce. When puberty hit, they began to speak up. Our relationship is better than ever. Sadly they do resent their mom a fair bit which is awful regardless. Now I try to fix that but it isn't mine to fix.
I am so sorry for what you are experiencing however. This is one of the most emotionally challenging and painful situations I believe one can face.
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Thank you, it’s torture.
Thank you! I appreciate that.