I’m struggling with recovering from a shitty relationship with someone who clearly hadn’t done the work of honest recovery and leading a spiritual life. I have no doubt he is a sociopath predator and it’s really disturbing to me to think about it and the lies and deception and even danger I put myself in. The guy stole money from my purse and prescription medication. And I gave a pass not believing what my mind was telling me was true. I don’t believe this person is maybe capable of ever changing. Honestly I think he was after money all along. That’s not what recovery is about. It’s very disheartening. I didn’t ever even think I’d meet someone like that in my life. But truth is evil is all around us and especially in drugs and alcohol. It bends your perception. I don’t know why I’m even sharing that when I have several years sobriety. I guess maybe IT’s meeting evil and knowing it and knowing that a higher power is the answer at least for me. Knowing that I have peace and serenity and he will never know what that is always wanting more and feeling less than deep down inside. It’s not how anyone has to live. There’s power in having a higher power and peace is one of the promises is your willing. I’m just struggling with this acceptance that the world isn’t always a great place but I know there’s better out there just waiting for me. Isolating isn’t a good thing.
I’m sorry that you’re struggling right now. It’s not easy by any means especially when you think someone actually cares about you just remember you’re a strong woman and you deserve to be treated like a queen don’t accept anything less, you know who you are and I promise you your higher power will show you what you need stay strong stay sober and stay you.
Please I pray you come out from this okay it’s not an easy thing to do but, I will keep you in my prayers that you come clean I send you a friend request okay if you need someone to talk to I’m here please stay strong okay.
You can do this a day at a time with the help that is available. I can’t but we can!
It’s sad finding our people aren’t who you thought they were or who they sometimes say they are, but it’s better to know who they are so you can get far away. You continue to do things with good intentions and you take the time to heal. Make a meeting and continue to work the steps you got this!
Pray fervently for a Godly Man!
I let a toxic relationship take me out when I was close to 9 years of sobriety. I had a year in June. I’ve learned that lesson the hard way….. NOTHING gets in front of my sobriety EVER again!!!!
I’m so sorry you went through that. I’ve been there.
As the saying goes; what do you get when you sober up a horse thief?
A sober horse thief”
All I can do is look at my part (although I don’t want to), and ask God’s will be done for this sick person. My mind is the only one I can change.
Idk about godly but honest and willing to reciprocate. I was duly fooled and I have quite a bit of sobriety. I think I am just shocked at myself for not being willing or unable to see it. Ya know it’s hard to look at your own character defects in it. Did I have a need for security or lack self esteem and why do I seem to repeat it. It was definitely leaning towards co dependence.
Hey, anytime you need to talk. You can call me. I spent 12 of my life with someone like this. Alway trying to make out to be the crazy one. Your not alone. Just focus on yourself and sobriety.
You have the gift of recognizing what transpired was not in your best interest and you are free from it now. You have gratitude for and are living in the present by letting it go here and now. This is a good reminder for all of us to not focus on the past but the present moment as it's the only thing we can control.