I’m struggling with…. Starting. The fear of not ever having a beer again freaks me out. But my mind tells me I want to be sober.
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Taking the first step, it is the hardest. Knowing you are powerless over alcohol, is the first step to kicking it. I felt that way as well… not ever getting to sit around a camp fire and sip bourbon. Not able to have a beer with the boys after a round of golf. Not regale story’s of the hunt at deer camp and do a shot for the 10 pointer my cousins boy shot…. But let me tell you, having those memories, of the perfect camp fire, round of golf, and watching that 10 year olds face light up when we track the deer is well worth never drinking again. I have 12 years of misery and black outs where I don’t remember. Days and weeks of “what the heck happened”. Recovery ain’t easy but it is well worth it. I don’t know your story, but if you think you need help, there is an entire community willing to help you. Good luck!
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What about the fear of driving home drunk and possibly killing someone, besides yourself? I think about this a lot and and I am so glad I never did.
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It’s good that your mind is there because it’s really the brain that convinces you drinking is ok
You’re not alone, the starting point is always the hardest part, at least you know what you gotta do what’s best for you 
Just messaged you
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Look at those beautiful kids in your photo! They need the best version of you possible! I know a lot have shared some encouraging things, I just wanted to say that. I wish my dad got sober when I was younger. ❤️🩹
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Truth.
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Fear is the worse of it. Because what’s the worse that can happen after that
If your heart is telling you it’s time then it’s time. It doesn’t have to be complicated. Good luck
What helped me was not saying I'm never going to drink again. Start saying I'm not going to drink today. I've been saying that everyday and so far it's been working. One step at a time. One day at a time.
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So so true. This is how I started.
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You’re looking way to far into the future. Just deal with each day as it comes. I used to set dates that I wanted to make it to and extend them once I got there.
What about no beer just for today? Try not to think about the rest of your life. But one day? That’s doable!
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I found it more manageable to focus on not having a beer today versus thinking forever. Just one day at a time seemed to make it more manageable and help my focus.
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I hear you. Day 2 for me. It’s a scary thing and for me it’s honestly an hour to hour struggle at times. Our families and we deserve better though, not we’re bad ppl but the alcohol takes away from who we really are. Anyhow, good luck and you can do it
I feel this. I don’t want to miss out. Realizing how much alcohol is part of the “culture” of the groups im a part of. Questioning if I can still fit in and not drink? What will that look like? It’s hard to imagine, but that alone makes me sad. How did alcohol become such a big part of life
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One day at a time! 
Who says you can never drink again?
Bullshit !
Just don't drink TODAY !
(And when you wake up in the morning... we don't drink, just for TODAY.)
Don't worry about the rest of your life . Just focus on today and keep your head right where your feet are .
I would strongly suggest getting to Meetings on a daily basis too.