I’m here and I’m thinking why is it so hard for me to have a few sober friends, that I can truly get to know and like grow with, I know the older we get the harder it is to make friends, but I’m hearing you need a community of ppl to help you on this sobriety journey..Idk, I guess what I’m saying is it would be nice to just have a few ppl I can check in with and gain some encouragement to really help with me quitting my wine addiction , anyways thanks for letting me babble 
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Recovery can definitely get lonely. I found a good supportive group of friends in meetings. I have some friends on here as well, but there’s nothing quite like having a local support group who I can see and touch in person. Have you ever tried meetings? I know it’s not everyone’s first choice of places to go, but I kept going until it clicked for me. Keep searching
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Well I do attend AA meetings online, I listen , listen , listen, I actually found these meetings online when Covid hit, but I haven’t been in person yet!! I find it more convenient for me being a single mommy .
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Reach out anytime you need to.
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Welcome 
…. I’m here if you need to talk
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Thank youuu
I appreciate it!
AA, by design, is a face to face community or as we say “suit up and show up” type of program. The reason it works is because it’s one alcoholic helping another. We can tell truth from false by looking into another’s eyes when they share. This gains trust. We can fool family but not so much another drunk. Even during Covid I attended daily in person meetings at parks or outdoor venues knowing that it is important and 1/3 of our recovery triangle. Plus your regular attendance might be enough to inspire the next new member. 
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Look up some women's AA meetings near you. I think you'd really benefit from the fellowship of women in the program who have been/are where you are.
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If you don’t necessarily want to go to AA to find friends. Another great way to find friends your age is by Volunteering in any interest you have ! Personally I love volunteering with animals because i don’t even need to explain animals are just the best. They are also healing ! Horses can feel your energy from 40 feet away. Also, sign up for classes that again perk your interest. Art, crafting, yoga, kick ball, dance, or learn something new! It is easy to make a friend when you have the same interests! Sometimes I go to ceramic nights, it is being your own alc but it. doesn’t bother me I just don’t drink ! All the people their are super friendly and there’s other people who don’t drink they just like doing art !
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It doesn’t have to be harder to make friends as we get older, that’s connected to our self work in recovery though. I know what you say is the norm but it doesn’t have to be our new life. To have a friend be a friend. Unconditional acceptance is the key.
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I cannot recommend more to attend AA in person. You will connect more and you leave with a sense of “they get me” in a way that differs from online. Also, offer to help set up, make coffee, ect before and after. It all about the direct communication, both verbal and nonverbal 
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Thank you all for the advice, I appreciate it! Today is day 1 for me, gonna see how I do for 30 days🙏🏿
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