I need help finding someone to help me on this journey. I’m so depressed and this have not been going well. Just looking for a true friend.
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Hit a meeting near you don't give up
Don’t do AA. Thanks though.
I have read somewhere you can get a recovery coach. You could look that up online. There are other programs besides AA, you could also look into that.
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I'd love to be a guide.. I do AA but I know it's not the only way.. the principles are there, but so is daily gratitude and working with others. I'd love to connect.
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I don’t do AA much either. There are other ways. I am looking for sober friends too. Friend me.
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How come you don't "do AA"? Just curious.
I tried 12 long years. Steps, sponsors, AWOL, never worked. Sober living. I like a lot of the concepts. Still zoom when I need a meeting. I use them. They have helped millions. No disrespect.
12 years of insanity. Doing the same thing over and over again with same results is insanity. Ugh. If you fail AA after legitimately trying. Talk about feeling like a loser.
Different programs are out there. Check it out. Doing ok. Thank goodness Kind of saving me now.
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Laura, I get it. I REALLY didn’t want to do AA and white knuckled it for 6 months. Once I got in the fellowship, things improved. Is AA perfect? No. But in the rural area I live in it’s my only option. I don’t work the steps or have a sponsor. I go for the fellowship. Maybe check out an other program in your area. Best wishes
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Is there a particular reason why you don't do aa?
I found it hard to meet other people outside of the treatment program that I've just graduated from. In all 10 months I've been clean. I haven't met anyone outside of a meeting. In my experience I haven't found anyone outside walking up and down the street yelling I'm sober and clean and itching to make friends.
In this time though. I've been successful in making new friends by going to church and then meetings. I frequently only make one meeting a week but I make it a point to stop and talk to somebody before and after the meeting, exchange information and make an effort to start communication, then stay in touch.
meeting people on here puts me at the disadvantage of distance, when it comes to hanging out with anyone.
Have you tried getting plugged in to a good church. Jesus is my hope and salvation.
There is an online recovery community called Cafe RE, it’s on Facebook. It was started by Paul Churchill from the Recovery Elevator podcast. It was critical for me in my first year of sobriety. Hope it helps and I hope you find the support network we all need for this journey.
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A few have asked & the reason I don’t do AA is a personal reason. It’s really no one’s business. I know sober folks who’ve never ever gone to AA.
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AA isn’t the only answer. And she mentioned that she is feeling depressed, so she may not be in the place to give of herself emotionally to others who are needing it. I don’t wanna speak for her, but when I was battling major depression, I had no desire or a unity to pour into others. I had to focus on and worry about me and me getting through my issues. Then, I was able to give back. You can meet good people at plenty of places other than AA. It’s not for everybody. Sometimes we need a friend to reach out to us. And there’s nothing wrong with that.
Hello Laura: For me, after trying every combination, I am going to 12 Step meetings, therapy and talking antidepressants. In a month,?I will have 5 years clean and sober. Please keep an open mind and do whatever is necessary for your recovery.
Make God as your true friend and savior.
Spirituality and connection with God is required in this journey.
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