Depending on ur DOC maybe u should consider a medical detox, inpatient after I kno both places saved my life. And even now for the ppl who can’t go away to get help they have telehealth doctors for MAT services as well, I’d consider that as well if ur opiate user. That has also saved my life
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A medical detox is great ...I second that recommendation. But, it would be all for naught if a co-deoendent, addiction focused relationship just pulls you back in...
It's really hard for some, but you simply have to focus on yourself and what's better for your health and future. I know that place and I'm sorry you are there. Good luck.
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When I quit, I did not ask my wife to quit. This is my journey, and though it would have been beyond wonderful for her to join me on it, it was not her time to.
It was hard, especially when she’d get good and drunk. However every time that happened and the morning after, all I could think was “I don’t want to be that way anymore.”
Remember this is your journey to quit, if you need to do this, do it for you.
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Get clean and sober for yourself. Everything else will fall in to place. Build a support group of people in recovery who you can call in between meetings. Get a sponsor and work the steps. I know that what I’m saying seems to simplistic, but it works!
When I stopped drinking I had to because I was going blind and had to quit .. I didn’t want to but I had to and it was only by the grace of God.. my husband had no intention of stopping and it was all I could take being around him and his ways.. I finally had to get away from him.. it was hard enough on my own let alone a husband holding you back and friends too.. I just had to get by myself and basically start all over.. with my AA friends.. my family are all alcoholics or junkies.. so they don’t respect me staying clean and sober.. that’s what you may have to do.. I moved away from them all over 3 months ago now and I’m just now feeling some peace in my life.. I have to thank God for get’n me thru each day
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You have a choice to make. How important is your SOBRIETY. You are the 1 that is DONE. commit yourself to RECOVERY and your life will change regardless who else gets SOBER around you. There is support for you if you want it bad ENOUGH
Well, you need to talk with him and see if he loves you more than that. That is a very difficult situation. What you would probably have to do is start loving him from a distance until such a time when you’re strong enough to be around it without doing it I live in central Florida. There’s not one business that I can go into where they don’t sell alcohol, but I realize that it doesn’t hurt me until I put it in my body and I just choose not to do that you have to purpose in your mind that you’re not drinking no matter what and then you have to walk it out and use the tools that Aa gives you
Don't drink and go to meetings, no major decisions in the 1st year. Get a group and sponsor and commit. It will work out!
Hi Sara! Lmk if u have any questions especially around treatment! I am a treatment placement specialist for the program I got sober at almost 2 yrs ago! Full circle! 
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Go to a meeting and get a sponsor.
I wish you the best in whatever decision you make. I’ve been in relationships when someone wouldn’t stop and have also been the one who couldn’t stop in a relationship. I couldn’t stop until I was 100 percent ready too.
Sarah I have been here and it's not an easy place to get Beyond. And my experience the only way I was able to overcome it is to say that I could do better and that someone needed to set the example. I figured I ought to be that person. Unfortunately, I eventually had to leave that relationship behind. Luckily I was not married, I am not suggesting you do that whatsoever. I am suggesting however that out of love you decide to set the example. Love for your husband and love for self.