I need support if anybody has time to talk I

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#1

I need support if anybody has time to talk I’d appreciate it it’s been a rough day for me a lot happened I’m not going to use over it but goddamnit it’s hard

#2

Hey Victor, seems like you've got a good attitude about it. What's going on?

#3

My girl of 6 years that I love dearly left me I was so blinded sided by that that I backed into a camper and blew out both my back windows every meeting I go everyone leaves and gets high im still clean and sober but I’ve only got like 10 days feels like my life is just falling apart and I’m trying to just trust the process but it just hurts she wants to get sober and says she can’t do it in this relationship so I have no choice but to respect that it just leaves me with nothing and no one

#4

Message me anytime to chat. Sounds like we are walking similar paths

#5

Dealing with a recent heartbreak myself man. It wasn't about sobriety, but still blindsided. I know it's brutal. Honestly, the best advice I can give you is to keep on the path your on, if there is any chance of the two of you getting back together than it will be because you both got sober. I know it's so hard to focus on anything else but that situation, but force yourself to fill your time. Workout, maybe find some meetings where people are actually sober and not leaving to go use. Start trying to better yourself. If you ever need to talk feel free to send a message

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#6

Thanks man I honestly don’t kbow how long I’m gonna hold it together maybe be more day

#7

I understand the pain, and wanting to do anything to cover it up, but again of you want her back, your only chance is to do the opposite of what your brain is telling you to do. At the beginning it is only making it through a day at a time, so if you can make it through today, that's a win. And tomorrow you can deal with when it comes, but it is possible, as bad as it is, you can do it

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#8

I don’t think it’s gonna work out like thatEither way I tried to go get high today and change my mind halfway through so at least there’s that

#9

I don't know you obviously, and I don't know your specific situation, but I've been so we almost five years and I've seen this exact situation more times than I can count. And I'm not saying it definitely will work out, but if there is any chance, like I said, it's because you're sober and doing the right thing. Even if it wasn't to work out, you know better than anyone that using won't help. Do you have any supports in your life?

#10

And that's great that you turned around. It shows that it's not really what you want to do

#11

How are you doing man?

#12

I’m fine now I got a little bit of residual sadness over this but this whole thing has run it’s course and it’s not working anymore it never has and all we have ever done is get each other high she’s not capable of having a healthy relationship and neither am I so we are just going to part ways and get sober now who knows maybe one day we will stumble into each other and things will happen I doubt it but it will be okay either way

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#13

We addicts are so uncomfortable with pain, back or heart etc. you need to take care of yourself before u can be right sized and take care if anyone else. It’s hard and it sucks but “just for today and stay in the day” do not use. Try and keep busy and if u can get to a meeting that would really help. I have had incredibly difficult times since getting sober 8 years ago and have got down on my knees and asked for help. Stay in the solution not the problem and nmw think of the drink or drug thru…
Good luck!!!

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#14

Virtual hugs sent