Alcoholics drink, addicts use drugs, that’s what’s normal for us. Being clean and sober is hard work, don’t beat yourself up, it’s always okay to start over! And that’s not a friend who shames you!
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She's still your friend, thought. She cares. Remember this.
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There are so many people in this world. You're young to go meet some pretty sober girls somewhere. Might require you getting a job tho.
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Hey Vic. Keep ur head up and get back to it! I’m 60 now and newly sober and started drinking in college 40 + yrs ago! No way I should be here! Up to God not us!!!!
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You got this! Keep reaching out! There's a lot of good advice that comes from the people that gather here! Praying for you in the meaning!
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Hey man how's it going don't beat yourself up you're not the only one that goes through this so just know that you're not alone getting sober is the hardest part I think we can all agree on that staying sober is a little easier but getting there is the hardest part I couldn't even tell you how many times I have relapsed some say it's a part of recovery for me it was I was an alcoholic addict for 15 years of my life I didn't get sober until I was 34 I'm 40 years old and I'm 6 years in and I can't tell you how good life is today so if you can find it within yourself to work the program you best can reach out to people like you're doing now talk to people because I'm living proof this does work and it's worked for so many other people too if you want it bad enough you will make it work too I wish you the best of luck brother
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And also remember this you are a young guy you have your whole life ahead of you don't dwell on your relapse just put it behind you and move forward
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I said that at 19 about year 20 after my 2nd rape. Said it at 20 about 25. Said it every five years since. I'm 48 now. You don't have to love yourself or even like yourself you eventually end up learning to live with yourself after every trauma. And you eventually reach the point where you get tired of abusing yourself. Sure you have to get used to living with yourself over and over again but as frank Sinatra sang. That's life
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Hey Vic I have relapsed over and over. The key is Never Give Up you can do this but you can’t do it alone. Trust in your higher power and the people here. Pay no attention to your friend. Only other alcoholics and addicts will understand
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I admitted to myself that I was an alcoholic at 22. I continued to drink daily until I was 47 with very few days off. You’ll get it. Keep going to those meetings. Hang with the guys who work the best programs. Keep your eyes on the prize. Every morning promise yourself you won’t drink today. Never have the first drink. Distance yourself from ppl who don’t value your sobriety.
And not to be a d!ck, but stop with the self pity and playing a victim. The world isn’t out to get you, I promise. That’s your addiction talking. It protects itself by building resentment in your mind. It convinces you that you can do it on your own. It convinces you that it’s the solution, but it’s really the problem.
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You got this Vic. Your friend is only looking out. Prove her wrong, show her you are capable of staying sober. You got this brother. Blessings!
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Awesome advice
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I leaned something today about looking at your recovery as a percentage over times instead of linear then starts at 0 (for example if you relapse once in 100 days you would be at 99%). You don't want to throw away the progress you've made. It's not about being perfect every day but making progress over time.
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Thank you to everyone who took the time to comment advice and encouragement. I’m not giving up on myself yet. I want to prove to myself I can make it to a week and more. I’m always happy to chat further so shoot me a messages thanks!
Vic you have started recovering already your willing to acknowledge that you relapsed, 4 days is good, don’t beat yourself up, it’s ok, glad you went to a meeting online, I did also so we got this, I relapsed after 3 years but picked myself up and I am also 4 days, I have relapsed so many times but I want to stop drinking so just keep on trying cuz we can do this