You don’t have to do or saying anything in AA. Just going and listening to other members will make you realize you are not alone and your story is no different
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Patty congratulations on 8 months sober. I hope your life is going better today than it was 8 months ago? I’m betting it is
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I had the same problem. I white knuckled it for 6 months no drinking but I was just miserable and on the verge of drinking. I made the decision to go to a AA meeting and I am glad I did! Things really started to change for me once I start listening to others in the program, doing things that where suggested, got a sponsor and start working the steps. Not everyday is rainbows and sunshine but it is a lot better than it was. I became willing to do anything to stay sober and I couldn’t have done any of that with out the fellowship of AA
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First of all, congratulations on 8 months. Maybe you are comparing to others. This may be human nature, but all of us are different psychologically and situationally. Also, some exaggerate or even lie about how their lives are nearly perfect bc of their sobriety. That’s the narrative everyone wants to hear. You are doing great, and aren’t there some positive changes you’ve noticed since you stopped drinking??
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Thank you and yes, I definitely have positives in my life since I quit drinking. I just feel like I don’t have the joy that I see in so many others. I am going to go to a meeting and see if that helps.
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I know this feeling all too well
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Patty, congrats on 8 months. Your feelings are completely normal. Know that “this, too, will pass.” Here’s a suggestion, (in addition to chatting with your sponsor) Find someone (same gender) to talk to at a meeting and invite them to meet up for a coffee and a muffin. Keep making friends and acquaintances that are sober and begin the process of rebuilding your social life in sobriety. Loneliness can be a bummer and a slippery slope. Cheers!
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Took me a strong feel better. I still deal with depression. AA helps me a lot as I am an extrovert
I think a lot of us have been through that. It's also a very dangerous feeling, thinking "ah, I'm good". Find an outlet for when you feel that way.
Congratulations on the 8 months ! The thing is “ sobriety” is a ongoing process of froth and learning. After the addiction we learn life new likes new friends and new places to experience the gift we fought so hard for ! Now you have yo learn how to live it
Try doing everything that made you happy before without booze
I’m with you. I’m so lonely.
Congrats on the 8 
. Have you pondered the thought of the "why"? I, too, had to relearn all motor and cognitive behavioral skills and realized I was alone in doing so. I found myself reading, picking up a passion that was lost and therapy; but what really stood out was the art of solitude. My advice- begin a deep romance with this new self. 🩶
Nothing is wrong with you. Everyone has a different path getting here and being here and going through life.
Speak your truth as you have just done.
Nothing at all to answer your question. Great job on 8 months that is an awesome accomplishment. People on social media mostly talk about the great parts not the everyday work and struggles. We are all different. Try not to compare yourself to others. Look inside yourself for that validation of your feelings
Based on what you posted, THERE'S ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU. Sobriety is not magic, the answer to all questions or the path to salvation. It's simply a base on which you must build a meaningful life. There are all sorts of problems that getting sober doesn't fix.
If we ask what is wrong surely we can find something. Have you equally asked “What is right with me! We can only build on strengths. You may be the one who takes the world by the tail. Each person’s path is unique.
The long form of the Serenity Prayer doesn’t say Joy will always be ecstatic. It says reasonably content. And everyone knows slow spiritual growth is firmer and more resilient lasting longer!