I split up with my friend and I’m struggling with the sadness. I just want it to stop. I don’t want to feel sad anymore. It hurts.
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Family is definitely the hardest to deal with. Last night I cried myself to sleep and the blame I put on me came rushing back in. My own daughter has backed away (my only one). You need to stay strong and show them how serious you are (I hope you are because you don’t want to quit and die).
You don’t say why but most families have no understanding how hard recovery is. I had a severe spine surgery and only one niece came by to see me. I think that’s why I also cried last night. No one has offered to help. Thank god my husband has been here but he is exhausted. I just decided that I need to try and stop crying and blaming myself. We work so hard in recovery and I will not give up for anyone and you shouldn’t either. Show them that you got this.
I hope you have a recovery team, meetings, counseling what you need to help you. Keep reaching out here, if you don’t give up (I hope you don’t) it will show them a lot. I wish you the best and keep reaching out because recovery is worth it. 
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Thank you for your kind words. It seems that you are finding your way as well. I’m praying for your recovery 🫶🏼
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If you want to chat you can also private message. Don’t give up. Family can also mean the death of us. Not happening. I watched my brother die 33 years old the color of a lemon and a very close friend bled out in his car from alcohol. So I say let them go for now. They will come back
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Hi Cecilia, my absolute best friend died a few months before it quit drinking. I did not take it well. Every day was hard. We talked every day since we were teenagers. I would pick up my phone sometimes and just talk to him. Right after I made a year sober my wife (my other best friend) left. I had to lean on my Faith and my support system and still how I stayed sober. I can say that a few months later when fog lifted I found myself in a better place then I have been in, in 15 years. It’s hard and a struggle. I spent time with my kids/friends. I found things to occupy my free time Mario Kart. All you can do is keep your head held high and putting one foot in front of the other. I am starting to that losing something usually means gaining something else. Stay strong. Friend me if you would like to talk more about this.
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Thank you so much for your kind words. Im just in the beginning of creating my support system. Sometimes I think it’ll take forever
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Have you looked into joining in on any of the activities that the phoenix have to offer?
Google them if you’re looking to get your mind off the moment and have some fun, healthy, sober experiences with like minded sober people.
The phoenix . org
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I don’t “stay strong,” I’m deeply involved in my own Recovery and Surrender, which are the same idea. “Either God is everything, or He is nothing! I CANNOT RUN MY LIFE WHETHER I’M GETTING MY WAY OR NOT!!
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And I’m not selling anything on here! I love you (global) for fun and for free!!!
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Thanks a lot. I’ll check this site up. I really appreciate the suggest
Feel free to add me and message me anytime.
And also if you’d ever like to we could go on a hike or something sometime. 
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