I think the most uncomfortable thing on this road to

Recovery
#1

I think the most uncomfortable thing on this road to recovery that I've been on for quite a while is the total abandonment I experienced from people who are supposed to be close to you and love you who become judge and jury and convict while all the while it was me that took the steps to make the positive changes in my life. I guess they look at me as a disappointment.

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#2

totally hear that your not alone there man

#3

I've found that you have to be useful. Weather it's helping someone move. Giving them a ride. Working.People generally will call upon a useful person.

#4

It takes time to build back trust. We can usually get it back thru working the 12 steps of AA/NA. If we do our end of the deal, we can be at peace with how others choose to feel about us. I’m not quite done with my 8th and 9th, but I can see the path back to gaining back the trust of my loved ones. I do agree with you. It does hurt to see them hurt, and doubt you. Keep living properly my brother :pray::peace_symbol:

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#5

I had conditioned my loved ones to not trust me. They heard the lies and attempts to control their thinking towards me for years. Now they see the footwork and the trust is cautiously being given. It takes recovery action on our part, and time. There are three speeds in recovery - slow, slow, and slow. But it’s a journey, not a destination. They’ll come around - just keep doing the next right thing, and let go of any resentments. :pray:t2:

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#6

That's a very relatable feeling. I'm finding peace in working on projects that progress my personal goals. People come and go, eventually you find people who vibe with your new lifestyle.

#7

Thank you all for your support. It's terrible being lonely. My adult children aren't full rejection mode. And I honest-to-god have no idea what to do with that. The only saving grace is my faith in God and also my work.

#8

Hi Mark. I highly recommend a book called The Relationship Cure by John Gottman. He’s that marital counselor who can predict divorce early on. This book is about all kinds of relationships though. It will help you connect with people on a deeper level.

#9

They get jealous because you are marking them look at themselves.people will not be happy about that .leave them a lone for some time.don’t wait for them .people don’t like change!!!!!!!!!.:dromedary_camel:

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#10

Thanks for the advice Renee I just ordered the book on Amazon hope it has some good info thanks again