I’ve been invited out to celebrate cinco de Mayo events that I’m sure will be all alcohol centered events.
I have no desire or compulsion to drink. But I don’t know if I’m ready to have to turn down drinks and be around a bunch of drunk people. Sigh… I want to go have fun, I don’t want the pressure.
Yeah, tonight is going to be sh!t show. I prefer to be at home than have to be around a bunch of loud as$ drunk people. “Alcohol centered events” aren’t fun when you’re not drinking. Even if you remain sober, I think you may find the whole evening rather annoying
Yeah I’ve been flirting with the idea of going just so I can feel “normal” for once. Butttt I have to remind myself - I’m not normal. I’m an alcoholic & I have to be very protective of my sobriety. Thank you for this post it really snapped me back into reality LOL
If you're confident that you won't drink you could 'stop by' early to say hello and chat with friends, the head out before everyone gets annoying.
This is what I do when I want to hang out with friends that still drink. I arrive at the very beginning and then leave when people get too intoxicated for my liking. Just make sure you don’t get wrapped up into being the DD. Just because your sober doesn’t mean you have to be your friends responsible choice.
How do you respond when offered drinks? Like do you have a go-to?
I simply say I don’t drink. You don’t have to justify it with a reason other than it’s a personal choice.
Phew 😮💨 now I like that! It’s funny you made that comment bc I was going to offer to be the DD tonight to have it as my “scapegoat” but then I also realized I don’t wanna stay out all night with a bunch of drunk folks either LOL
I agree with Stephanie. You really do not need any explanation as sometimes for every question answered there becomes another question. You don’t need an interrogation!!
If I’m asked to be the dd, my response is always “ok, are you almost ready to go?”
Nobody cares that we don’t drink except us. That’s what I learned anyways.
If you suspect you may be tempted, then you may not be in the right spiritual headspace to join them. If you do decide to go and test the waters, I highly recommend you have an escape plan. A plan that you can exit on demand. This worked for me in the beginning. After 7yrs sobriety I prefer to not be around it. The moment the first drink is spilled or when the first person lights start to go out, I’m MIA. Lol.
We owe nobody an explanation. I think this is easy to forget. If they push, I say I’m allergic.
Sooooo I went out last night (kind of) I stopped by, ordered some tacos. Noticed the sloppy drunks and became uncomfortable. Asked for my food to go. The bartender, and attendees def pressured me to drink - rather aggressively might I add. I said no repeatedly. Stayed for about ten mins and left. Not my scene anymore.
If normal is poisoning your body and being around people who talk loud, interrupt, keep repeating themselves, I will gladly be a freak. Cinco de Drinko is only about one thing. Getting drunk. You aren't missing anything.
Have fun sober
We can go anywhere on EARTH. Say that we are in FIT SPIRITUAL CONDITION.
A no thank you is good enough, no explanation needed.
Take a sponsor or sober friend who is driving so if you get tempted you can leave! Or stay home and read the big book! DJ 734 787 6591 text me ANYTIME you want to talk about recovery
I don’t like to lie, so I usually go with the second one. It’s honest and doesn’t give away too much information. If you can’t or don’t want to be honest, there are a lot of reasons to not drink and one excuse or another will work.
“I’m doing sober (insert month)
“I didn’t drink for a while and felt amazing, I’m going to keep that going”
“My doctor said drinking is causing my heart to beat abnormally, I’m not drinking tonight”
“I found out I’m allergic to something in alcohol and that my rash could turn into a heart attack. Not drinking today”
“My (insert distant relative no one knows) has liver cirrhosis and may pass away from it, I’m not going to drink tonight”
“I’m doing a 7 day cleanse”