I’ve been sober long enough that it’s my lifestyle. I made a lot of AA friends early in sobriety hanging out at this old mansion Alano clubhouse here in Minneapolis. The clubhouse has gone down over the years. I moved out of the city years ago and the friends have diminished. I have a family but feel isolated. I’m retired now and on my last chapter in life. I have been feeling that I would make more friends hanging out at the corner bar. Just not into 12 steps anymore. I heard that alcoholism progresses even while sober. Has anyone experienced this?
I can only speak for myself. Yes it did for me after time away. May I ask you something? What hobbies do you enjoy? What stimulates your mind or heart in regards to things you enjoy doing and are there any groups you could join that people have the same hobbies? I don't know your circumstances, to know what you want to do for fun. It appears to me you and please let me know if I am wrong. You don't want to go back to the old behaviors, but want to find a community and activity that made you feel like you were contributing. Is there any volunteer work you could or want to do?
That’s a pretty good read on me Rylan. So you drank more when you went back. I’ve been putting a lot of time into playing my guitar. I had been studying Spanish but have dropped off lately. I get out for a long walk everyday and enjoy political podcasts. I would like to volunteer with homeless but my wife is immunocompromised. Not ready to get out there yet even though Covid seems to be winding down. I’ve had friends die with Covid and makes me realize this is it. Religion has never been my thing even though I’ve tried that route also.
Jory you are a good dude. I’ve seen you give some top notch advice on this forum over the past year or 2. I really think working with newcomers could reinvigorate you. I don’t mean sponsor if that’s not where you’re at, but just help. Maybe a call center shift you could do remotely?
Hey thanks Craig - I actually did that years ago at first call for help. That’s great advice.
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Reminds me of a big book story on page 32. Since you've been in the fellowship, I'm sure you're familiar with it.
A man of 30 was doing a great deal of spree drinking. He decided to stop until he retired. After retiring at 55, he went on to drink & was dead in four years.
Good luck with the next decision you make.
Yes I’m very familiar with the story. I didn’t know exactly where it was. I could never wrap my head around the part about the addiction progressing as if I never quit. I think that’s what it says but
I guess it’s a choice everyday even after all these years.