I’ve been trying to get sober all year and I’ve had sober streaks but someone I really care about just left me because of my drinking. I’m feeling very alone hoping to find some sober support.
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Hey Jackie, you’ve come to the right place! There’s a lot of sobriety here and you will find an overwhelming amount of support! I’ll friend request you if you’d like to chat.
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The good news is you know you can sustain it for a stretch of time. Final step is drawing that line in the sand. Understand what drives it, reach out when you need help, and you’ll see you can do it! Good luck!
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Welcome Jackie. We all get to that point where the pain is just too much. It’s a bad spot to be in, but it’s also the beginning of something special. This a great community for support. We don’t judge because we’ve all been to he1l and back. Sounds as if you’ve learned a lot this year and are ready for a change. You can build your life back better. Definitely get with Jenn for a little woman to woman talk. Hope you feel better 
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Yes I would love to chat thank you Jenn❤️
Perfect, once you accept my friend request I will be able to message you.
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Hi Jenn glad you are here you are making the first big step and your reaching out stay strong one day at a time and keep working on you and u can regain that connection to that person being sober I am always down to chat and make new sober connections
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Stay strong! It can be so hard for sure, but there are always those who can brighten things!
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AA helps tremendously. You’re not alone. Maybe seek out a woman’s group?
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I went 6 months without going to meetings… I REALLY didn’t want to go. I used to make fun of them. I met a random woman on a date and she told me her story of recovery (I had no idea prior). She convinced me to put up with some of the BS and go. Once I started meetings things really did improve, I’m ways I never could have done alone. Now I’ve been going for 2 years and still sober. I don’t “LOVE” AA the way some do. I see it’s faults but I also know it works, it’s everywhere and it’s free.
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Jackie, this is a long and painful road. But there is light at the end of the tunnel. You came to the right place for support. Everyone here has walked some version of the same path. I am sorry your person left you. Sometimes it takes that to shake our world, and make us look in the mirror. My daughter refused to talk to me for almost 3 years. It was extremely painful. Now I am 22 months clean, and we are slowly rebuilding our relationship.
Seeing the world, as nasty as it can get, through sober eyes is so much better than seeing it through clouded eyes. Now I try to see the silver linings in life. Gratefulness. Life can really suck, or can be not so bad, depends on your attitude. If you would prefer an all women's support group, just google it. There is so much support, you just have to ask. We stay sober by reaching out and keeping each other's heads above water. You have to come to the surface and ask. Find your higher power, and hang on for dear life. You can do this, Jackie. One hour, one day at a time. 
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Aa. Org meetings / celebrate recovery.get out will help you!
Keep trying it takes many failures to get it right . It took me a little over a year to get consistent sobriety and realize that it was worth it and important to me to get sober for myself. Set backs and failures really show you why and what you need to do to get it done!
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Being alone in sobriety is hard. Really hard, I'm going thru the same thing. I'm attending lots of meetings, talking to my support people, step work, and contact with my higher power. One day at a time I'm making it thru
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I know how it feels. I have lost so many people because of my drinking. I realized that I am alone because of it. I know now that I have to get sober if I want things to change because what I was doing was not working out. I had to surrender and put myself in rehab. I have 45 days clean today and I’m more clear headed now. I know it won’t be easy but I know I can do it. I did it once and everything was good and fell into place. Just keep your head up and stay positive and whatever you do, don’t drink. It will pass.
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You should be proud of the realization that you have came to! It sounds like you know you need yo make a change! Prioritize that change, give your self the space to make that change. There are different paths to sobriety! Find what works for you! And most importantly build a network of support!!!
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Get involved in AA, find a sponsor, and make your sobriety the top priority in your life. Everything else will fall into place, one day at a time!
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This is when and where you find you. A new and better you, hopefully. And in doing so, you will meet new people. Maybe it was destiny/fate. They left, and it sucks and even hurts, but by them leaving, it's an eye opener for you. Oh, and I could give out the same cliches, "Join AA." But AA isn't for everyone. Do a bit of research on different recovery programs and find one that works for you. But make sure you try your best, otherwise it's just a waste of time. Our time is very limited as it is.
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Go to a meeting or call someone
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Go to more meetings fill that empty spot until you feel better
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