“Those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.” You’re not alone in this feeling but you will grow stronger staying the course. Remember…it’s YOU that matters most
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Stay strong, alone is a scary place! Reaching out like this is progress, meetings help me or calling another sober person! I’ve been told to get out of myself by helping someone else it takes your mind off of it. Hope this helps you can do this!
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Keep your head up! You’re never alone when there’s a huge community behind you! Reaching out is a huge step and a step that most of us refused to do for a long time.
One day at a time! You got it!
We all are your support. Keep in touch and talk.
Any one out in upland Ontario california area ?
I’m so sorry for your loss. You’re never alone. Stay strong. I wish u the best
Rehab or aa will help you
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Hope it’s going well
I had a gf leave me several years ago now because of drinking. The addict never wants yo look at themselves. This is a sign for you that you have a problem. You cannot do this alone or just using an app. Go ask for help. Do it now.
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I’m close to your same boat, my wife almost left me with my 3 kids due to my drinking. I refuse to let a demon liquid take my family from me. We got this, let’s keep it up!
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Sorry to hear about your loss. You are not alone. Well done reaching out, you are at the right place here for community and support. Remember, alcohol is the problem, not the solution. You got this!
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It will get better
I'm hosting small group weekly buddy checks with friends on this platform (ladies or co-ed). DM me if you want to join 
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I drove everyone away until I took a hard look at myself and realized I had to get sober
I've been told im a great listener so if you ever need an ear, I'm here. I could use it too. Stay strong.
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Hang in there. There is loss and pain in life but we can get sober regardless. I’ve needed AA, treatment, therapy and lots of sober friends to hang with. I also attend and volunteer with the phoenix, a national nonprofit that has free sober virtual and in person events. You can Google them thephoenix org
How are you going now? If you saw a pic of me of Nov 18 and now you'll get motivated. Alcoholism is poison to the body and mind! It only gets worse
Something that helped me at the beginning was to choose a moment from my rock bottom that I could rely on as a reminder of why I was sobering up. It needed to be an image that was connected to negative feelings.
For me it was the memory of a door closing that I had no way to open. The image was connected to strong feelings of helplessness and fear...it was like I was paralyzed and trapped in that moment.
Once I had chosen the moment, I started to tell other people in recovery about the image so I had some accountability partners. If I drank again, they could remind me what I had told them about my bottom.
It was important to remember that this image shouldn't be used as a way to criticize and abuse myself emotionally. Rather, it was a like a headstone for the person I used to be. It was emblematic of the type of feelings and experiences I could freely return to if I wanted. But from that point on, I had to purposefully choose to feel helpless and afraid by choosing to drink again.
Keep your head up, and stay engaged with sober people. I know my disease had me feeling so alone back home in Virginia that I eventually had to ask for help, and move out to California to surround myself with a sober recovery community. Keep taking things one day at a time though! Hope today is a great day for you!