I was asked to speak for 25 minutes on an

I was asked to speak for 25 minutes on an online AA meeting. I soooo don’t think I am worthy of this. Despite the fact I have been cracking away at this for 10 years, did IOP, dealt with relapses, do Group sessions weekly, Therapy, i’m on two meds for cravings -

I am not invested in AA. I enjoy the meetings that I attend, I don’t have a sponsor not into working the 12 steps, even though I’m pretty sure I’ve worked them in these last 10 years without somebody coaching. The personal stories are what I connect with. I also do SMART Recovery meetings. I am a firm believer that there is no guaranteed path to sobriety. If you do AA by the 12 steps and you succeed, I applaud you. If you go go cold turkey, and you are able to do it, I applaud you. I am here for you whatever path you take.

I haven’t had much sober time under my belt since my last relapse, which is why I am reluctant to speak . Hitting about a month and a half right now. I have had 3 six month stretches, and many one month stretches here and there before I got serious about it and checked myself into an IOP when I lost my job last year.

On the flipside of all of that, I guess I am the exact guy that newcomers want to hear from.

I am a work in progress. Relapses are not something I plan on. Nor do I want to do one more time.

But I am human, and I am trying. Hard-core AA lifers have told me I’m not trying hard enough.

Well, I know that I understand this disease so much more over the last 10 years I’ve talked to hundreds of people. So my response to those guys is yes I am trying very hard.

That’s all. Thank you for listening.

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I think you should do what you feel like doing. I don't know that we would ever feel worthy enough to speak. Congrats on not giving up after relapse. I know how it feels!

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Thank you. I think I’m going to speak. Because I want somebody who was in my position years ago to understand. I just don’t like the judgment. Granted, most AA people that I know, most people in SMART Recovery, etc. they don’t judge. But for some reason, there have been several people that are like well dude you’re not doing it right.

And I’m like, ok…. What is the right way to do it?