I was doing so good. An yesturday i relapsed. I

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I was doing so good. An yesturday i relapsed. I havnt even talked to my family about it yet. It sucks i dont know how to break it to them. There gunna be so disapointed…i was 323 days sober

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#2

Tomorrow is another day. You are way ahead of me. My family do not even know i have a drinking problem. Please do not give up. I would love to be your friend. I have noone in my life. Good luck.

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#3

Look at it this way. You didn't die out there. Have you made it back to a meeting? You're doing better than you think.

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#4

You don't have to tell your family anything right now just focus on why the relapse happened and keep moving forward

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#5

As a child of and on recovery i feel other ppl that dont struggle with this disease dont really understand. Do you have to tell your family? I do think its important to share with us. Or your recovery network. But if it feels like your letting them down. Prove to them you can do it again by doing it again. Action speaks so much louder than words.

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#6

It’s up to you on what you decide to tell others but I think the most important thing is what caused this setback and what you plan to do moving forward. If this is a situation you feel may lead you to prolonging your relapse then you may want to tell your friends/family so you can get the support you need. However if this was truly a one and done error then prove to yourself that this hiccup doesn’t define you. Recognize the trigger and plan ahead on what you can do to avoid this happening again. You got this!

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#7

Thank you every one for your supports I don’t got much out here my pops already don’t believe im sober at all. lol. Been shaking it rough since I relapsed. Haven’t had the urge again, because it honestly hurt me bad. I broke down just today and told every one. I had too. I felt like it was right. They say the first step is being honest about it. I got nothing to hide. After I told my family. I felt a lot better today I been super depressed since I relapsed… I hate it

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#8

Don’t hate the relapse, learn from it and keep moving forward just 24 hours at a time and don’t drink. Reach out before you pick up. You can do this

#9

I agree it’s your journey. Make sure that you tell the people that you need to tell your sponsor and people in your group. You don’t need the added pressure of telling your family and having them hammer you for it. You survived the relapse just get back on the horse sort of speak. You have to take care of you right now.

#10

When I was a kid, my Dad finally had quit drinking, and we were so happy. He would go on a sober stretch and would have a slip. I hated it because I knew he had shame in it. I wish so much he didn't have the shame because I felt it was a huge part in then going on a stretch of drinking. You had a slip dont let it become a slide. You came back home. Proud of you. If you know your sober, let that be enough.

#11

You were doing so good . And u still are . Ill mention what I shared in IOP ... tht sometimes our ' sobriety date ' can act as a bit of a weight . Like the one guy was 22 months sober and then relapsed . So he just got back on the horse and now he's 16 months sober again . Thts like he's 99% sober for over 3 years !!! Thts so much better than nost of us were doing when we were out there doing whatever . It represents a lot of growth and to me thts pretty good !!! You're gonna b just fine glglgl :+1::+1::+1:

#12

Congrats on being honest- slip up, and full blown benders are very different, glad you didn’t do the latter! You got this man, take it, learn from it, and keep going!

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#13

Good job on the 11 months. Give yourself credit for that. Keep it going now!!!

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#14

323 days is amazing! Give yourself grace :heart: and get back on track today. Figure out why you felt the need to and create a solution if you feel the need again. You’ve got this!