I was in an LA meeting last night (I live

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#1

I was in an LA meeting last night (I live in Ohio but needed a later mtg) anyhow- someone shared and it really sticks with me and bothers me! He said he essentially “de sponsored” a guy because he was still struggling and drinking…:face_with_raised_eyebrow: I commented and they said I was cross talking and muted me lol. Thoughts on de sponsoring who’s still drinking?? Curious. AA says “desire to stop drinking “…

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#2

I’ll always be there when they come back ( if🤷‍♂️) but the program is for people who want it not need it. I can’t chase people around who don’t want to do the work if I do that unfortunately I might be taking away from somebody who truly wants to do the work and would die if I weren’t able to help them chasing somebody who is halfway in and halfway out.

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#3

You can fire your sponsor and a sponsor can fire a sponsee …. Things don’t always work out

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#4

Yea I get that. Maybe I’m too new to the program myself to understand fully the ins and outs of it.
I’m just curious for other people’s opinions. Bc what the guy said last night really bothered me.
I spoke with my sponsor and she said what I thought “the requirement for membership is the desire to stop drinking”.

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#5

I hear ya but the person that’s struggling is better of finding a new sponsor because the one he or she had wasn’t working

#6

If someone is too much of a pain in the áss, like they arent even trying, I'm out. I don't have enough time for someone who doesn't really want it, plain and simple. I didn't get sober to hang out in church basements and be driven nuts by my sponsees. Sponsors are to help guide through the 12 steps, not baby sit.

#7

Good morning Jenn

Some people will say they are willing to be a sponsor. Just because they are willing to be a sponsored doesn’t mean they should be a sponsor. To be a sponsor means you have worked the 12 steps of recovery and are willing to pass on that information to Share your experience strength and hope through working the 12 steps. You can only pass on the knowledge that you have. If you have not worked the 12 steps you should not be sponsoring. You can’t give away something that you do not have. Have a blessed day.