I was talking to a friend and she said 'nobody warned me about how lonely it would get when I got Sober.'
We think quitting is the hardest part but sitting with ourselves is even harder.
Anyone else been there? How do you handle weekends now that it’s just you and your thoughts?
I do agree putting the drink down is easier than living a sober life, especially in early recovery. It's lonely, uncomfortable and dealing with my thoughts is a challenge. On the weekend I go to meetings and do my best to stay busy by doing things with others
I discovered that though I alone, I am not lonely. I rediscovered activities that I used to enjoy, but couldn't because I was too drunk to do them. It is still an adjustment. It is a new but good and clear way to live. The opportunity to work on myself is now even more abundant. On the weekends I focus on healing my traumas and do alot of reflecting. Reading has become a rediscovered passion I head forgotten I oved so much.
Yeah I feel you
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Welcome to my world Loosid. Back pre-sobriety I was the party or the party was at the house in Laguna Beach or the house in Kihei, Maui, Hi. Everyone who claimed to be my "friend" was there even people I didn't know were there.
Now enter the world of sobriety. That party goers and those who claimed to be my "friends" all went away. Even the females I was "dating" were no where to be found.
Instead of coming home to someone in my house now I come home to an empty house where it's just me.
No doubt that soberity is hard there is no doubt about that. What is hard is coming home to an empty house. Especially when you, the individual, have a lot to offer a mate. I'm not talking about the size of your 
or how much $$ you make. I'm talking about what's in your heart.
How do I handle my weekends now? I go to my 730am meeting and then, for the most part, go to work. Do I want to? NO NOT REALLY however if it's going to get me you of my head and away from the 
committee then so be it.
Would I love to come home to that special someone? ABSOLUTELY!! I know what I bring it to table.
I know I'm not the only one on this platform who feels the same way.
Just remember that isolation and drinking is not the solution.
When I was finishing my career with a bottle has never felt as lonely when the booze was not really bringing that anxiety down. Then loneliness is a fact. But sobering up. Wow you get busy and work finds you and get healthier. You do not have that drama all the time and one will miss that at times. But change will have to take place or nothing will change. Odaat and life will bring more meaning to you. I found the gym a great help for my sobriety. Keep going
I agree, my first few attempts at being sober i had these same issues. This time I started engaging in the AA, NA, & DRA community. I have developed some major friendships and realt strong supports. I became active in my local club doing as much service/volunteer work as possible. I learned to always spend time with people that have alot more sobriety than I do as they can teach me what I dont know and need to learn.