For anyone in recovery who’s grieving a relationship right now:
One of the hardest things I’m learning is this:
sometimes someone doesn’t leave because you weren’t enough.
Sometimes they leave because staying would require them to face themselves.
In sobriety, we learn how uncomfortable growth can be. Healing asks us to sit with feelings instead of escaping them. Love asks for presence, consistency, and accountability. And not everyone has the capacity for that yet.
I’ve realized that asking for depth, honesty, and emotional safety doesn’t make me “too much.”
It means I was asking for something real.
If someone chooses what’s easier instead of what’s healthier, that doesn’t lessen your worth. It just shows where they are in their journey. And that’s okay.. but it doesn’t mean you have to follow them there.
In recovery, we don’t chase what pulls us back into confusion or old patterns.
We choose clarity.
We choose peace.
We choose ourselves.
If you’re hurting, missing someone, or questioning your value.. please hear this:
You were worth staying for.
You’re still worthy of love that stays.
And choosing yourself is not a loss-it’s growth.
You’re not alone. 
In sobriety and in love, I choose what helps me heal.
