Sounds like a loser.
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Thank you 
I’ve been that person too so I understand. It’s interesting having been on both sides of it. Very interesting
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He’s not ready for someone like you. You’re a rarity like a diamond and you deserve to be treated as such. He did you a favor and you handled it like an adult
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JFC. I'm sorry that men are trash.
It's not always easy finding somebody that respects and understands and that's okay too they have their own story to write just like you did I live in North Fort Myers Florida and trust me there are a lot of people that just want to drink and do drugs but I have to respect myself and understand my disease that that's not for me it'll all be okay have faith in your higher power
I want to say first so frigging proud of you. You walked away from a situation and decided to honor yourself. The fact that you set a boundary and stayed true to yourself and your recovery is absolutely monumental. There are amazing men out there that are going through the same things you are That are going to respect your boundaries and have so much fun with you. Keep leveling up and honoring you. You are amazing and the right guy is just around the corner
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That guy disrespected you and doesn't deserve you. You should be proud of yourself for handling the situation like you did. Hang in there you'll find the person you deserve
He is too selfish to care. That’s not on you. The world is full of them unfortunately. Keep loving yourself with those boundaries. They build self esteem
Be proud of yourself ! I know I am. That must have been tough. But the only things that can affect us afterwards is up to us, what we DECIDE to let us affect us. You did the right thing by telling on your disease instead of allowing it to fester. Good job! And for real ,you respected yourself and deserve to be respected in return
Boundaries are crucial. If this man could not understand and respect the ones you set for yourself in order to protect and maintain your sobriety, then he is nothing but selfish and arrogant. On top of that, by trying to seduce you to drink with a classic like “I want you to have as much fun as me”, this man is literally stating in said sentence that his fun did not begin until under the influence. It sounds like he was more concerned about his “good time” than enjoying his date. There’s nothing to feel negatively about in the slightest. You just kicked a disrespectful deadbeat to the crub. Good for you!
Sounds like he's pretty deep into his own disease if he thinks you can't have fun without alcohol. I would consider this dodging a bullet.
I sure can relate! After about a year of being sober and out of a toxic marriage I tried dating again. At first I looked for someone sober. I didn’t find anyone that I clicked with at meetings or online so I expanded my search for companionship to “normies”. After a few similar experiences to yours, I gave up… After a couple years of not trying at all, my friends say I’ve become a bit too comfortable alone 
I’m here
He's ignorant and you're lucky to find that out so soon.
Just think of how much time you could have wasted with this person if you were still drinking! He’s clearly a disrespectful and self involved person but because you’re sober you clocked this about him immediately, instead of drinking with him and probably dating him for a good while before you realized how awful he is.
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Going through it now... I know how you feel. It one reason I came to this site to find sober friends and maybe a date will come out of it
If you are being pressured like this, leave. He doesn't respect your wishes.
Hmm... Maybe not the one for you.
Yes I'm going through this too. I've been on tons of dates and every single one has resulted in the all mysterious question as to why I don't drink, as if there's something wrong with me. And my answer to them is "why do you drink?" I'm to the point now I don't want to date drinkers in any form. And it makes sense. They are accustomed to significantly lowering their intelligence at least a few times a week, and I am not. That's a big deal. That's a big difference. Especially long term.
You dodged a bullet. Thank goodness he was pushy about something so obvious and simple. Could have been something else later in the relationship. No means no every time all the time including about drinking.
I found an easy way to never even have to have the conversation. I tell people I don't drink. Most say "cool.". To the ones who ask why I say "makes people weak". Never yet had anybody call me out on that.