I went to inpatient and was clean 2minths after i was discharged and my boyfriend showed up with a bag of dope and i turned it down 2 or 3 times, but then finally gave in. Its been off to the races then since using that one time and i dont know how to putbit down and get back on the sober wagon. Ive been using daily now, meth and alcohol, for 4 straight months now and i dont know how ro mentally place myself and set my mindset back to not wanting to use or wanting to fight the great fight against daily use. Any help??
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I only say this from personal experience, get away from the things that hold you back, including your bf. When I say I had to literally pack a bag and not look back, I meant it. FOR ME! If your bf couldn't help you by not offering, he isn't what you need to be healthy in your sobriety! I also learned that the hard way. No one is ready until they are ready themselves.
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It can be hard, but if you really want it, then you need a new sandbox and new playmates. Places like this.
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Need to get rid of people places and things that hold you back.
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@angela271314
Your boi-friend showed up. There is a reason why he's your boi-friend. That reason is because he's a little boi. A little boi will do childish things. The major is not caring about the consequences.
It's pretty clear that your boi-friend has no respect for you.
You need to cut off any and all contact with this boi-friend.
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Real solution!
- Go back to inpatient and when you get out,
- go to an in person NA/AA meeting within an hour and then go every morning and night for at least a year.
- Dump the boyfriend and anyone else who uses.
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Welcome you are in the right place
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People in our lives that are still using or drinking want us to fall back into our old patterns because it makes them feel better about themselves or their addiction. I had to walk away from a few. It's not easy if love is involved
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It seems so hard. I totally fear the āunknowā or what my life could or be without him 
Sobriety starts with acceptance, that might mean moving on so you can start to help yourself some bfs are meant to stay out so recovery can begin .
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Iām so sorry youāre feeling stuck right now, getting back on track can be hard, but you can do this. Sometimes creating distance from the things or people triggering the cycle is the best first step. Keep reaching out here, and know we are all here to support you.
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People places & things
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That is a completely normal way to feel. The unknown is terrifying. It is often the hardest things in life that give the biggest reward. I know itās hard to imagine life without him, but like others have stated, having people around you that are sober will be a huge support! So glad you are part of the Loosid Community! Let me know if you need anything.
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Its people places and things I need to stay away from. I changed everything about me. During the 3.5 yrs being homeless, my choice. I moved to different places to see if I wanted to live there. I ended up being 5 hrs away. From NC to Texas, to SC, then back to NC.
What really helped me was moving across the country and starting over. It may seem scary but it can help
I'm proud of you for turning it down those 2 or 3 times.
If you got sober/clean before, you can do it again now. It's in you!
Let the guy go!
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Iām in agreement with everyone about finding new people. I not only had to ditch my so-called āfriendsā, I had to remove all their contact info from my phone too. When youāre serious, you have to choose to close certain doors & recognize them for what they are - potential paths back to that world. Some bridges are only good for burning, as crappy as that soundsā¦
Good luck to you!
Everyone is right on here you need to change the people places and things that make you want to use or also where you did use replace them with people from Meetings the rehab whatever you just need to change those that set you off on the wrong path it takes time and I know itās hard, but thatās the only way to stay clean and soberWeāre all here if you need anybody.
That's not a boyfriend.... that's a dope friend....he loves it so much more than you that he jeopardized your self determination and hard work....you owe no loyalty to that bad connection....and as for any couple....if 1 goes get help....both go....just as if 1 clean and 1 on dope...both on dope until ties cut....break that cycle or continue to lose that battle my friend 
.....I got help in Maryville Tennessee....i saw so many husbands and boyfriends make their woman leave bc they had drug urges....a husband and a wife came together and bc he wanted dope she felt forced to leave.....that's crazy....don't let love blind you or that love bind you, 
prayers for you