I went to inpatient and was clean 2minths after i was discharged and my boyfriend showed up with a bag of dope and i turned it down 2 or 3 times, but then finally gave in. Its been off to the races then since using that one time and i dont know how to putbit down and get back on the sober wagon. Ive been using daily now, meth and alcohol, for 4 straight months now and i dont know how ro mentally place myself and set my mindset back to not wanting to use or wanting to fight the great fight against daily use. Any help??
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I only say this from personal experience, get away from the things that hold you back, including your bf. When I say I had to literally pack a bag and not look back, I meant it. FOR ME! If your bf couldn't help you by not offering, he isn't what you need to be healthy in your sobriety! I also learned that the hard way. No one is ready until they are ready themselves.
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It can be hard, but if you really want it, then you need a new sandbox and new playmates. Places like this.
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Need to get rid of people places and things that hold you back.
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@angela271314
Your boi-friend showed up. There is a reason why he's your boi-friend. That reason is because he's a little boi. A little boi will do childish things. The major is not caring about the consequences.
It's pretty clear that your boi-friend has no respect for you.
You need to cut off any and all contact with this boi-friend.
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Real solution!
- Go back to inpatient and when you get out,
- go to an in person NA/AA meeting within an hour and then go every morning and night for at least a year.
- Dump the boyfriend and anyone else who uses.
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Welcome you are in the right place
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People in our lives that are still using or drinking want us to fall back into our old patterns because it makes them feel better about themselves or their addiction. I had to walk away from a few. It's not easy if love is involved
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It seems so hard. I totally fear the ‘unknow’ or what my life could or be without him 
Sobriety starts with acceptance, that might mean moving on so you can start to help yourself some bfs are meant to stay out so recovery can begin .
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I’m so sorry you’re feeling stuck right now, getting back on track can be hard, but you can do this. Sometimes creating distance from the things or people triggering the cycle is the best first step. Keep reaching out here, and know we are all here to support you.
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People places & things
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That is a completely normal way to feel. The unknown is terrifying. It is often the hardest things in life that give the biggest reward. I know it’s hard to imagine life without him, but like others have stated, having people around you that are sober will be a huge support! So glad you are part of the Loosid Community! Let me know if you need anything.
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