Iam going through h3ll getting my ex out of my house. Between her and her kids putting holes in the walls, hiding dishes in the kids room until there moldy and gross and constantly screaming at me putting me down calling me names, and then telling me to get my a** back in my room and I know what there trying to do. Trying to make me the bad guy. So I don't react I just stand there with no reaction. I started my sober journey February 17 2023 fucked up on December 16 2024 besides that I have been clean and sober. If the only thing I can say is I have no desire to drink or use. Even through all of this. It is not my fault she can't be clean and sober. Maybe before It got to the point where Iam kicking them out they have until the end of month, maybe just maybe don't cheat on me, don't treat me like garbage, and pretend you have any say whatso ever about my house, especially where Iam the only one paying for bills and been like this for over a year. I am the only one that cleans. But can only do so when they leave because I get steamed at when I leave my room to do anything.She had the chance to be on the lot application she refused And then turn around and act all shocked that Iam telling you you have leave. Lieing to everyone telling them Iam drinking and using. Its definitely projectoin at it it finest.
I had to move on, man…. Sometimes what seems like “the scary void” is a much better place to be in. Can’t say in your case. Mine was a gamble as well, but it seems to be getting better and easier.
I am really sorry that you're going through all that That's good that you're getting them out of the house cuz for you and your sanity and your sobriety that would probably be the best thing for you to do I pray for you and hope that everything works out
Sending positive vibes! Hope it all works out for you Todd
It definitely will be better.
Move if u can. Document things that are off about the house. Get around good, supportive people, not a bunch of f ing arseholes
Todd, my prayers are with you🙏.
In a similar situation..only i moved out of my own home because zibgot clean and he didnt. He refused to mive..so for my own sake I did. It wad over 30 years we were together. He feels entitled. I own the house. He is still using and refuses to pay rent or leave. His eviction date is Jan 1st. I can not and will not continue to allow him to use me or take from me again to further his addiction. They wont quit as long as we allow them an easy way to use at our expense. Stand your ground but DO NOT JEAPORDIZE YOUR SOBRIETY! Things can be replaced..time spent high and drunk can not be replaced.
Hopefully you are putting her out legally with eviction. You can’t just tell her to go after a year. You need to do what’s best for you. Why are you allowing her to tell you to go to your room in your house. And if she’s an alcoholic are her kids safe. Does she need to be reported to CPS? Biggest problem if she’s not on lease and you want her out judge may not put her out with kids in the winter. Just make sure everything is legal in and in writing. My heart breaks for you. It’s tough to do sobriety unsupported. Stay close to meetings, call your sponsor or someone in your group everyday. Be good to yourself. Keep working the steps. Tomorrow is a new day. We’re here if you need to vent.